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Ayla
is on page 129 of 192
A bit slower on these chapters but I did enjoy them relatively. I like the balance of the "I am" statements activity and centering God at the forefront even through times of grief. I think Smith's scientific explanation of how grief and loss can change the value of certain identities and how that is a loss of itself too is really impactful and something I definitely want to think about more.Looking forward to the end
— Dec 28, 2025 09:30AM
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Ayla
is on page 113 of 192
This chapter on invisible grief was really nice and helpful to read through. I didn't realize that's also something I am juggling through the forefront presenting loss of Dad being gone. there's a lot of moving parts to this and being able to sit with it and get the advice for grief groups and finding people like me is oddly comforting and helpful. I really like the fact that there's support in here for this.
— Dec 26, 2025 09:55AM
Ayla
is on page 102 of 192
Not the biggest fan of the chapter I just read, but I like the introduction of the dual-process model of coping with grief. It's something that I think can really apply beyond couples breaking up and I think it works for the Pandemic, loss of life, and also experiences because that is still a valid and very real thing to grieve. This chapter didn't feel as intimate as the others though which is why I didn't like it.
— Dec 24, 2025 03:47PM
Ayla
is on page 86 of 192
This past chapter has got to be my favorite one so far; answering "what's the meaning of this?" because when it comes to loss, maybe there is meaning, maybe there isn't -- and that's what I struggle with the most. I just am so filled with anger and sadness; but the themes of accepting love/forgiveness but also being able to extend it? It's hard to be the bigger and better person but it is a good way to be; as it may.
— Dec 22, 2025 09:21AM
Ayla
is on page 49 of 192
I do sincerely enjoy reading this book, but my goodness is it a long read, especially with adding the fact that I'm also annotating it at the same time. I want to be able to enjoy the book in its' entirety, which I am, but there's a lot to absorb while I am reading it. I love her way of weaving religious texts to practical theories and her own experience. Resilence and grief are not entwined and inherently the same.
— Dec 21, 2025 07:15AM
Ayla
is on page 40 of 192
though referencing the bible, I can see Quran parallels here. I do get so angry reading this sometimes because I feel seen and reminded by all the grief and hurt that I am in. and yet still, it helps a great deal. some of the activities are helpful, others are mediocre at best. Again, the balance of religion emphasis and using definitions/therapy is so wonderful. I really appeal to this sort of framework and it helps
— Dec 20, 2025 07:27PM
Ayla
is on page 26 of 192
Repicked this book up after a really long time. It's really good and I love to be able to annotate it and cry, it's a nice book because I do feel understood & seen through it. There's a part that made me think about Taniys and I text him, but the growth is still there. the letting go. I really appreciate her scientific, personal, and academic approach to tackling grief, it's been really helpful and a good read for it
— Dec 19, 2025 09:57AM
