Eric Amaya’s Reviews > Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself > Status Update

We often time do so much for others that we forget to take care of ourselves and that leads to us resenting people, complaining, gossiping, and we just need to be clear. We should also look at everything in our plates and see what there is actually for us.

It talked about unspoken boundaries and how we can’t expect people to spect limitations we don’t tell them about.

I made it tot he exercise where I have to reflect on when I’ve been told no told to, when I’ve said no, and why I don’t say no. OH RECENTLY J SAID NO TO JOSHUA ABOUT MONEY CAUSE I WAS SETTING A BOUNDARY I ONCE TOLD HIM ABOUT.

It was speaking on how people respond to boundaries. I think the one that called out the most to me is rationalizing and questioning. Because it’s asking a question to get more explanation then comparing to make sense of it.

We’re currently defining what boundaries are and the meaning of it. The ones that stick out to me are Boundaries are a safeguard to overextending yourself, they are a way to communicate your needs, and they are a way to feel safe. (Yes I restarted the book this year *2026*)

It talked about blurred boundaries like telling people how to live their lives and gossiping.

It takes time for people and yourself to adjust to boundaries but you should not falter at all and we need to follow up on our boundaries not by explaining them but by sticking to our guns when they are pushed. There are blurred lines when establishing boundaries and we expect them to be met even when we don’t explicitly say it and a side effect of it is gossiping about it which ruins the other persons reputation.

Good. This session I read about setting boundaries and how to stick to it, along with how people will react to the boundaries. I need to state my needs clear, don’t provide a detailed story, be consistent and restate my needs when needed. It’s possible to receive pushback, or have the boundary tested, the silent treatment, or to be questioned. But I just have to stick to my guns and don’t switch up.

I read about micro aggressions, and about oversharing. Oversharing is something I do a lot, not even just about myself but about other people aswell and that’s a huge problem. Codependency chapter didn’t seem as crazy to me as I thought, it doesn’t sound like me and Mary so I was surprised. I’m having a good time relaying the book to my own life experiences.

I read about emotional boundaries and sexual boundaries and I believe the sexual boundaries are easy to understand. Those emotional boundaries though hit me a lot. I’m guilty of committing a lot of those violations like raising my voice or belittling a persons feelings. And they’re not intentional but I need to do a better job recognizing it.