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“What doesn’t kill you might traumatize you to the point of disintegrating your memory recall.”
I’m sick

“Healing is a series of tiny evolutions, born from ostensibly negligible choices, carried out day after day; it’s most often expressed in moments that have no witness other than yourself.”

“You as a person are a whole world of cities unto yourself. You’re so dynamic that you couldn’t possibly begin to measure yourself against someone else, and you do yourself a disservice every time you do. You won’t be for everyone; that doesn’t mean you need to change.”

“You can’t control grief by subtracting joy from your life.”
The manic laughter that followed this statement was insane.

“You can change without healing, but you can’t heal with changing.”

“Personal accountability requires you to own up to your missteps, yes, but personal accountability is less about taking the blame for a mistake and more abut taking responsibility for the solution. Punishment doesn’t require an ounce of reflection, acknowledgement, responsibility, condolence, or a pledge and plan to improve. Punishment is lazy.” 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

“Connection will hold you over when nothing else can.”

“Perfectionist intellectually understand that they cannot change the past, but that doesn’t stop them from trying to change the fact that the past had an impact on them. …You accept the event and reject the impact. You say some version of “Yes, that happened but I’m fine.””
If yall had a penny for every time I’ve said that, you would be eligible for retirement at 25.

“Power lies in understanding that whatever you feel, you have agency over every moment in your life. The exception to the rule is trauma.”
🚬Oh no, here we go.

“We love to think in binary ways. Were depressed (damn it!), or we’re not depressed (phew!). Mental health doesn’t work like that.”
Plot twist: we all are a little sick in the head (knew it)