aubrey’s Reviews > Are You Mad at Me? > Status Update

“The worst-case scenario is clarity. Or rather, more realistically, it’s discomfort and clarity. Yes, it’s hard to have certain conversations and to look at the reality of the relationship that’s right in front of you, but when you do, then you know, and you can use your precious energy to accept what’s happening, accept that you can’t control the other person or change them, and move forward.”

period

“When we feel something unsaid lingering in the air, sometimes acknowledgment is all we’re craving. Think of any sort of rupture in a relationship, then, as an opportunity for more closeness.”

the concept that something as simple as acknowledgement could have such a profound effect on a person… it really can drastically change so much about a situation

“Honest, clear, and open communication is the most important part of any close and safe relationship, whether it’s with a family member, a romantic partner, a friend, or a coworker. But both people need to be willing to participate. If one person is wanting and willing to have open communication and the other person dodges topics that need to be addressed, the closeness can go only so far.”

so true

“To practice acceptance means to see it clearly. It means to see our reality through a clear, grounded lens and say, “This is what’s happening. Now what?” We can release our grip on what’s not in our control and turn our focus to what we can change.“

but what if i refuse

“Everything is always changing—how comforting, and how heartbreaking. I feel the comfort of impermanence when I’m seduced into an anxious thought spiral, or when I’m enduring physical pain, or when I’m feeling stagnant in life, or when a wave of grief washes over me and I suddenly find myself clinging to a version of reality that’s no longer here.”

change: 1
me: 0

“If you’re constantly analyzing some relationships and not others, it might be worth evaluating whether you feel emotionally safe in those relationships. Take inventory of whom you feel emotionally safe with and use that feeling to guide you in determining which relationships you want to invest in.”

ur so right meg

“You can be grateful for what your parents could give you emotionally and feel grief for what they couldn’t. You can have empathy for what your parents have gone through themselves and feel angry that you experienced what you did. You can acknowledge that your parents did their best with the awareness and resources they had at the time and acknowledge that their best still really hurt you.”

:(

“When a child’s emotional needs are repeatedly unmet, they feel that they’re not worthy of receiving love, that they need to earn approval from others, since it won’t come naturally. With this belief there’s a deep fear of rejection or abandonment, because the child has learned that their needs don’t matter or are “too much.”

oh!