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Lexie Carroll
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Emotional intelligence as defined by researchers Peter Salovey & John Mayer, in a landmark 1990 paper on the subject:
Emotional Intelligence is:
- ability to perceive accurately, appraise, & express emotion
-ability to access and/or generate feelings when they facilitate thought
-ability to understand emotion & emotional knowledge
-ability to regulate emotions to promote emotional and intellectual growth
— Mar 17, 2026 11:46AM
Emotional Intelligence is:
- ability to perceive accurately, appraise, & express emotion
-ability to access and/or generate feelings when they facilitate thought
-ability to understand emotion & emotional knowledge
-ability to regulate emotions to promote emotional and intellectual growth
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Lexie Carroll
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There’s an idea, especially in kids, that happiness is the only acceptable feeling in public, and if we’re not happy at all times, we’ve failed.
We have a natural bias in favor of displaying positive emotions, especially in the US, which translates into a pressure on all of us to seem happy, no matter what. Which often backfires and makes us LESS happy.
— Mar 23, 2026 10:05AM
We have a natural bias in favor of displaying positive emotions, especially in the US, which translates into a pressure on all of us to seem happy, no matter what. Which often backfires and makes us LESS happy.
Lexie Carroll
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The Sapir-Whorf hypothesis (named for a pair of linguists) maintains that the language we speak determines our worldview and even how our minds work. This hearkens back to a 19th century idea that language expresses the spirit of a culture.
— Mar 23, 2026 09:20AM
Lexie Carroll
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RULER Skill to be a skilled emotion scientist:
R- Recognize occurrence of emotion (change in body, thoughts, energy, facial expressions)
U- Understand cause & impact of emotions (how they influence our thoughts & decisions)
L- Label our emotions with accuracy & granularity
E- Express our emotions (discerning how & when to do so)
R- Regulate, ie monitoring/tempering how we express emotions, to help us reach our goals
— Mar 17, 2026 11:52AM
R- Recognize occurrence of emotion (change in body, thoughts, energy, facial expressions)
U- Understand cause & impact of emotions (how they influence our thoughts & decisions)
L- Label our emotions with accuracy & granularity
E- Express our emotions (discerning how & when to do so)
R- Regulate, ie monitoring/tempering how we express emotions, to help us reach our goals
Lexie Carroll
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Five areas of life that emotion impacts the most:
1. Attention/memory/learning
2. Decision-making
3. Social relations (ie affiliate or distance)
4. Physiology & Health
5. Creativity/effectiveness/performance
— Mar 16, 2026 08:20AM
1. Attention/memory/learning
2. Decision-making
3. Social relations (ie affiliate or distance)
4. Physiology & Health
5. Creativity/effectiveness/performance
