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When we take on a discovery mindset in conflict with our children, they instinctively learn the rhythms of secure conflict resolution. Our openness to their needs during conflict will help them learn to be open to others needs during conflict. While modelling a rupture to repair conflict proceed, we empower our children to trust the process of learning that conflict offers us
— Apr 11, 2026 08:21PM
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Model honesty to receive it. Answer with empathy when you “catch” them. It makes them feel safe next time
— Apr 05, 2026 02:34PM
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Structure gives predictability - being able to predict routines lets them feel safe so their brain can focus on creativity and learning, rather than needing to be hyperalert for survival.
Too harsh (“because I’m the parent and I said so”) = lack of trust, doesn’t allow learning/processing of why you made certain decisions
Too rigid (anxious control from parent) overwhelms nervous system, feeling unsafe
— Mar 22, 2026 08:00PM
Too harsh (“because I’m the parent and I said so”) = lack of trust, doesn’t allow learning/processing of why you made certain decisions
Too rigid (anxious control from parent) overwhelms nervous system, feeling unsafe
