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“We need (space) of our own to focus on ourselves and preserve our identity and independence. There is a word for this in German: spielraum. But there is no direct equivalent in Korean. And when a concept doesn't exist in language, it often doesn't exist in reality either.”


(With reference to: Jung-woon Kim, A Completely Different Time Flows in the Seaside Studio, (21st
Century Book, 2019).

“Now, I no longer try to be a 'good person' or to be loved by everyone. I want to focus my energy on living a happier life where I feel truly comfortable in my skin. I want to spend my time doing the work I love, meeting the people I love, writing about the things I love and creating art that I love. (A fulfilling life).”

“even if people hurt us, we still crave the fulfilment that only human connection can provide. The more you struggle with fear, the more critical it is to listen closely to your heart…accepting stress & figuring out a solution to release it. As long as I feel at peace with myself, I've decided not to worry…about how others think of me…spent too much (time) caring about how (I’m perceived through others).”

“No matter how much I pretended to be fine on my own, I would inevitably confront the truth - that I am vulnerable…It's a paradox, really. News of a celebrity's passing or a friend's wedding would still stir a subtle wave in my heart. We can never be completely unaffected by the lives of others, even those we have never met.“

“Ever since I was young I have always struggled to fit in. At school, I felt like a small drop of oil adrift in a sea of water, always floating and never blending in. I thought socialising would get easier as I grew older, but instead, it only got more complicated.

For instance, when should I stop replying to a text conversation? Is it appropriate to use emojis for work messages?” REALLL