Briar’s Reviews > You're Not Enough (and That's Ok): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love > Status Update

I think all of her examples are either poorly misunderstood or are the usual growing pains of trying to figure out oneself. Some ideas of self and pursuits are shallow. It seems that Christianity is the first philosophy that stuck for better or worse. However, she foudn the conservative, judgemental one. I do not think that this is healthier. I hope everyone mentioned in this book gets the help they need.

Misunderstanding transition. It is social when they're not adults yet. Has no understanding of ethical non monogamy. Consent seems to not be something considered. She claims you're never at risk of losing ourselves in Chirst. It's a double standard. You can lose yourself in the cult of self love but can't for religion? I don't think she ever had a sense of her baseline self. It's always determined by something else

So if you can't keep up with the societal expectaions, turn to Jesus? I am sad you were unable to find your footing after a breakful. You and Cecely need therapy and not from a priest. A bad version of self love and insisting you are not enough can both lead to bad outcomes.

Committing to something bigger is not necessarily about religion. You're also not taking multiple variables into consideration. You can have high self worth or love but look around and be unhappy about the state of the world.