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The Love Avoidant usually becomes seductive as a way of reconnecting, and starts doing all the things that the partner always wanted him or her to do. The Love Addict says, "Oh, wow," turns around to face the partner, exclaiming in joy, "Oh, you love me," and goes toward the Love Avoidant. When the Love Avoidant sees the Love Addict coming, […] he or she pulls away and runs, reversing the direction of the dance
— May 06, 2026 07:41PM
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Ryan
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When you have effectively accomplished this detachment, the intensity subsides and the environment may get extremely quiet, especially in comparison to the way it was. When the intensity is gone, it may seem as if you have nothing left in the relationship, because intensity was practically all you had in the first place.
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— May 06, 2026 08:33PM
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Ryan
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In situations in which you have been engaged in your addictive process, you need to stop and be willing to go into withdrawal and stay there without returning to the addictive experience, until the withdrawal has passed. For example, you need to stop chasing somebody who doesn't want to be with you; stop having sex with inappropriate people; stop drinking; stop overeating; stop overworking.
— May 06, 2026 08:16PM
Ryan
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If you are in denial that you are an addict, there is virtually nothing anybody can do to help you until you move into reality—the reality that you are an addict. This almost always means waiting until the pain is so severe that it cracks the shell of the denial.
— May 06, 2026 08:04PM
Ryan
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Many of us think that the right partner will complete a missing part of ourselves, finally making us feel whole. We also believe that this ideal lover will reveal the meaning of life to us. But each one of us has the potential to feel whole and fulfilled from within ourselves to the extent that we can develop our competence in self-love, self-protection, self awareness, self-care, and self-containment.
— May 06, 2026 07:52PM
Ryan
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I'll never forget that day I broke through the denial and delusion about my immaturity and began to see the reality of the person with whom my partner was living—me.
This has some kick
— May 06, 2026 07:50PM
This has some kick
Ryan
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The Love Avoidant, when being pursued, feels positive intensicy from being in control and in power—as long as the Love Addict doesn't get too close with his or her neediness.
— May 06, 2026 07:47PM
Ryan
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One is running and the other one is chasing almost all the time. When the one who is chasing finally gets close to the one running away, they both erupt into intensity, either a brief romantic interlude or a terrific fight.
— May 06, 2026 07:39PM
Ryan
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People who think for themselves, say directly what they mean, solve their own problems, dont get caught up in intense fighting, and take care of themselves reasonably well are not interesting to Love Avoidants.
LAUGHED OUT LOUD WOWWWW FUCK
— May 06, 2026 07:36PM
LAUGHED OUT LOUD WOWWWW FUCK
Ryan
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A part of self-esteem was wounded in Love Addicts' childhoods, since abandonment sent the message that they were not worth being with.
— May 06, 2026 07:31PM
