Dylan Whitlock’s Reviews > Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well > Status Update

Shifting more from types of feedback to how to apply these mindsets and behavior change strategies.

More examples are being provided for how to navigate feedback conversations, and how to address when you hear and understand the feedback but are not going to take it.

Identity can be a big factor in how we deal with and take feedback. Specifically: growth vs fixed mindset

Thoughts + feelings = story
Wow therapy and this work book are starting to collide. This explains the concept of “storytelling” in a more analytical way (almost)
It’s just nice to recognize this as something I so obviously do and it makes the information more valuable to me

Had to switch to audio 🥲 Punishment for procrastination is $15

“A feedback giver may not be ready or able to acknowledge their contribution to the problem…Rather than trying to force them to admit to and take responsibility for their part in the problem, describe how they could get a better reaction from you.
You're asking them to change, but you're casting it (legitimately) in service of helping you change.”

I really liked this point

Look at the full system rather than the individual

Blame absorbers vs blame shifters (speaks for itself) can be another relationship trigger for why it’s harder to take and give fb to those around us

Feedback from Relationships:

We can be triggered by feedback to those around us or close to us depending on how we view the person or how we feel they treat us.
Relationship triggers can sometimes lead to "switchtracking" where two separate feedback topics are brought up, but you can use "signposting" to separate and address them both. Relationship issues can sometimes lurk underneath the feedback first given

This chapter discussed blindspots:

they are amplified by emotional math, attribution, and impact-intent gap

In order to see ourselves and our blindspots, we need to ask those around us for help (honest mirror)