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Ch 11 on fostering wisdom overall good; there was a reference to “their night-light has been exchanged for the glow of their phone”…this and a few other references to how media is used have me concerned
Ch 12 on parenting with leave a bit fuzzy within the text…some holes on examples and clear language, but the headings are good: a legacy of unconditional love, peace, purpose, knowing God (versus the rules)
— Jul 27, 2026 08:01PM
Ch 12 on parenting with leave a bit fuzzy within the text…some holes on examples and clear language, but the headings are good: a legacy of unconditional love, peace, purpose, knowing God (versus the rules)
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L.A.
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Discipline as Discipleship: Quick Ref Gd, Pt 2
- choices - bth acceptable (WOW, hard), non-negotiat tone, prob-solv/collab DEF better for older child bc they’ll dislike you drawing boundary
- help - varies child/situation - physical, verbal step checkin…
- make shadow - GREAT young struggling child
- playfulness - learn/practice skills!
- PREP - LOTS - prep, role-pl, expl, plan (avoid too much info for some)
— Jul 27, 2026 08:31PM
- choices - bth acceptable (WOW, hard), non-negotiat tone, prob-solv/collab DEF better for older child bc they’ll dislike you drawing boundary
- help - varies child/situation - physical, verbal step checkin…
- make shadow - GREAT young struggling child
- playfulness - learn/practice skills!
- PREP - LOTS - prep, role-pl, expl, plan (avoid too much info for some)
L.A.
is on page 224 of 256
Discipline as Discipleship: Quick Ref Gd
I do these, but needed overall “peace not punishment” outlook to make fully effective
- do over - pretend robot malfunction OR pls try again in reg voice OR (parent) whoops, I’m going to try that again!
- find YES - phrasing commands pos not neg
- Forward-Facing conseqs - not punishment, just ways to help learn (confusing name)
- Gen/firm bounds - keep phraseology pos
— Jul 27, 2026 08:24PM
I do these, but needed overall “peace not punishment” outlook to make fully effective
- do over - pretend robot malfunction OR pls try again in reg voice OR (parent) whoops, I’m going to try that again!
- find YES - phrasing commands pos not neg
- Forward-Facing conseqs - not punishment, just ways to help learn (confusing name)
- Gen/firm bounds - keep phraseology pos
L.A.
is on page 171 of 256
Ch 10 - Chart 186: Christians culture hasn’t accepted literal translation of caning an almost-grown young man (na’ar) on his back, leaving visible marks, to save him from capital punishment; watered down version that it’s okay to spank young children on the rear without leaving marks is inaccurate; I will buy this book for this point alone
— Jul 26, 2026 08:20PM
L.A.
is on page 171 of 256
Ch 9 ?s
- think about teaching piano as coach…need to thin same way about arguing, lying, picking up, etc.
- excellent point that as adults we tend to think of suffering as sign of God’s rejection or disapproval, very possibly bc of authoritative punishments from childhood
— Jul 26, 2026 07:40PM
- think about teaching piano as coach…need to thin same way about arguing, lying, picking up, etc.
- excellent point that as adults we tend to think of suffering as sign of God’s rejection or disapproval, very possibly bc of authoritative punishments from childhood
L.A.
is on page 170 of 256
Ch 9
- Heb 12 comp parenting/discipling to athletic discipline (qt in rvw)
- Jesus confronts w/o shame, rebukes w/o coercion (qt in rvw)
- pg. 161 chart Jesus’ discipleship exs
- signet ring given prodigal son granted him authority… (qt in rvw)
- ask if X can be made right or if needs to be let go of
- imposed conseqs=arbitrary
- Simon + Traffic Light games for impulse control, role play, grace+accountability
— Jul 26, 2026 07:37PM
- Heb 12 comp parenting/discipling to athletic discipline (qt in rvw)
- Jesus confronts w/o shame, rebukes w/o coercion (qt in rvw)
- pg. 161 chart Jesus’ discipleship exs
- signet ring given prodigal son granted him authority… (qt in rvw)
- ask if X can be made right or if needs to be let go of
- imposed conseqs=arbitrary
- Simon + Traffic Light games for impulse control, role play, grace+accountability
L.A.
is on page 151 of 256
Ch 7 - a fan of the PEACE plan with my own modifications, as they outlined
Ch 8
- true that God comes to A&E in their sin; no timeout still hangs for me, bc child may benefit from “pause” in quiet, safe place (room) rather than parent staying…totally agreed may not be best for all children
- ground/Satan cursed, but not mankind
- boundaries put in place to prevent A&E from permanently stuck in sinful state
— Jul 26, 2026 03:55PM
Ch 8
- true that God comes to A&E in their sin; no timeout still hangs for me, bc child may benefit from “pause” in quiet, safe place (room) rather than parent staying…totally agreed may not be best for all children
- ground/Satan cursed, but not mankind
- boundaries put in place to prevent A&E from permanently stuck in sinful state
L.A.
is on page 117 of 256
Instead of “My child is disobeying me” think “My child is not obeying me yet.”
- reasonable expectations?
- my actions inviting/nurturing genuine obedience or demanding compliance?
- forging peace or forcing peace?
- what do they need help learning/doing…how provide gentle Christ guidance here?
- unmet needs I can satisfy?
- serve them better to model request or help them execute?
— Jul 24, 2026 06:49PM
- reasonable expectations?
- my actions inviting/nurturing genuine obedience or demanding compliance?
- forging peace or forcing peace?
- what do they need help learning/doing…how provide gentle Christ guidance here?
- unmet needs I can satisfy?
- serve them better to model request or help them execute?
L.A.
is on page 110 of 256
Ch 6 - true Jesus doesn’t force us to obey…no commands to force submission—“children obey” and “parents don’t exasperate”…worth thinking about; I do a lot of these “help” techniques, so amenable to ideas presented while questioning not expecting immediate obedience (do ack safety exception). Yes to ?s for critical thinking + protect from abuse, but ack of order + attempted obedience as ? asked
— Jul 24, 2026 06:45PM
L.A.
is on page 95 of 256
Ch 5 Some stuff seems odd—like worried birth experience (birthing center -> ER C-section) causing her to be bad mom; acknowledges view as extreme in earlier chapter, yet here again referencing birthing experience impacting quality of parenting
Ex friend’s child in her home = great ex reg, conn, comm, but bad behavior wasn’t mentioned or dealt with – child said done crying and moved on…doesn’t support pt
— Jul 21, 2026 06:52PM
Ex friend’s child in her home = great ex reg, conn, comm, but bad behavior wasn’t mentioned or dealt with – child said done crying and moved on…doesn’t support pt
L.A.
is on page 77 of 256
I know we’re building to instruction here, but giving scenarios and saying what not to do without a hint of suggestion as to what to do instead (not taking a slammed door off its hinges, not having a child sit with you if they aren’t getting dressed) is rather maddening—especially when you’re in the throes of those exact issues.
— Jul 21, 2026 02:13PM