Stephanie’s Reviews > How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen > Status Update

“As soon as somebody starts talking about times when they felt excluded, betrayed, or wronged, stop and listen. When somebody is talking to you about pain I. Their life, even in those cases when YOU may think their pain is performative or exaggerated, it’s best not to try to yank the conversation back to your frame.” (115)