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'The effort made in [self care] comes with joyous rewards, but sometimes it also comes with sadness. Because expressing kindness to yourself you deserve often reminds you of the kindness you didn't get.
Trauma isn't just the sadness that comes with being beaten, neglected or insulted -that's just one layer of it- trauma is also mourning the childhood you could have had, childhood other kids around you had..cont
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Deedee Drewes ... the fact that you could have had a mom who hugged & kissed you when you skinned your knee, or a dad who stayed and brought you a bouquet of flowers at your graduation. Trauma is mourning the fact that as an adult you have to parent yourself. You can't call your parents about your problems for them to tell you it's okay & help solve your problems. Instead you have to pull yourself up by your bootstrap and solve the painful puzzle of your life by yourself. What other choice is there...
Spending your life wanting a Mommy and Daddy is not childish, it is a universal primal need. We all want to be taken care of and that's okay. The version I see of me is not quite a parent and never will be, but she embraces me and whispers "I Want to love you". I lean in and let myself be loved. '


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