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Here are tips on what to do when your partner is experiencing negative feelings:

1. Don’t try to problem solve or minimize your partner’s feelings. Just tune in to what he or she is expressing.

2. Use exploratory statements and open ended questions. Do you want your partner to talk, so frame your reactions to what you’re hearing as either exploratory statements or open-ended questions.

When your partner is experiencing and negative feeling like sadness, fear, and anger, it is important, not to turn away from them.

“When you are in pain, the world stops and I listen.”

Sometimes we can miss bids, or signals, from our partners that they need us to turn towards them when the signal is wrapped in anger or other negative emotions. It’s important to try to see through that to see what they are really trying to ask for.

Healthy couples turn towards each other.. a tendency to determine towards your partner is the basis of trust, emotional connection, passion, and a satisfying sex life.

Happily married couples cherish one another.

Cherishing is a habit of mine in which, when you are separated during the course of the day, you maximize thoughts of your partners, positive qualities and minimize thoughts of -ones.

If a couple still have a functioning, fondness and admiration system, their marriage is salvageable. Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long lasting romance.

Repair attempts have a higher success rate when the quality of underlining friendships are enhanced.