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At the heart of loneliness is an absence of meaningful social interaction. - Atlas of the Heart

Shame and humiliation are tools of oppression

Humiliation is what creates mass shooters.

Perfectionism is externally driven. Shame is internally driven. They are the same coin. Perfectionism kills creativity because we can’t tolerate failure and are doomed to failure.

Shame is responsible for a lot of narcissistic cover up behavior. Shame lives in the unspoken, self isolated corners. Transparency and truth vanquishes shame. Empathy & accountability is how you fight others who are shameless.

Ch#7: Set boundaries but give kindness and compassion.

Ch#2 Comparison is the crush of conformity on one side and competition from the other. Trying to fit in while standing out is exhausting. Be just like everyone else, but better.