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“How we feel when we fall short:
Humiliation: I’ve been belittled left me feeling unworthy of connection and it was unfair. Shame: we deserve our sense of worthiness. Guilt; I’m a good person but did something bad”

“Shame and humiliation will never be effective social justice tools “ I’m SAT

“Compassion includes action, it’s not just feeling it’s doing - fueled by understanding and accepting we are all fueled by struggle. Shared humanity; it allows us to move to what scares us. It’s not a relationship between the healer and wounded” 🫪 the action is not fixing and making things better it’s sitting in the suck

The comparison of John Gottman’s contempt in marriages to contempt in our political culture is SO insightful. The republicans and democrats each feeling as though they are driven by benevolence while the other side is driven by evil and hate. Contempt is the “unsullied conviction of the worthlessness of another.” 😭

Obsessed and will be buying it, no question.

Brené does her own narration and the way she's reading this book!!! I just wish every non-fiction writer did this where they slow down to emphasize parts (sometimes repeating, and expressing why), and adding little asides/anecdotes that aren't in the print.

Incredible.