Qiyeopta’s Reviews > Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood > Status Update

if we let the memory of something painful prevents us from trying something new, we'll stop pushing the boundaries & breaking the rules. we can see the pattern of resilience here: validate the pain - keep it for a while/distract from it (do smt else that's > important atm) - revisit - embrace - (we may not forget it but for the sake of our peace of mind), we forgive ourselves for tht painful event/feeling. berdamai.