Jess Bae’s Reviews > Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships > Status Update
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"If you're having difficulty self-soothing, reconsider what you're trying to soothe yourself about. At times I've been amazed at how well I can handle clean pain -- how much I could hurt and keep going. It's but the same, however, if it's dirty pain. You can't really soothe yourself when you're dodging part of the truth."
— Apr 15, 2023 01:21PM
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Jess Bae
is on page 306 of 448
"I don't work with couples who won't acknowledge deliberately doing things to hurt each other. I'm not going to waste the next 6 months dancing around whether or not you folks hate each other or do things to hurt each other." The author emphasizes that we need to own our aggression and sadism to understand it, use it as "fuel for fucking" (his words!!!) and/or transform it.
— Mar 14, 2023 08:29AM
