Jas’s Reviews > The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power > Status Update

Core points so far: Making meaning, finding your why, self esteem, not fearing failure, growth (vs deficit) mindset, knowing limits.

“If you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate”

“Are you playing to win or playing to not lose?”

“Being perfect is being complete -Aristotle” “You don’t earn your wholeness, you’re born with it”

“The bad stuff is easier to believe”

“Perfectionism is meant to be managed, not destroyed”

“Meaning is what fills our experiences up”

“We tend to conflate external reliability with inner strength” “just because they can always show up, doesn’t mean they’re invincible”

“I never realized how attached I was to control until i started to lose so much of it.”

Martha Stewart is celebrated for her perfectionism “because her interests stay within the realm of what is acceptable for women to be publicly ambitious about”. “Perfectionism is a powerful energy”. It “makes a perfect servant and a terrible master”