Handolf’s Reviews > The Second You're Single > Status Update

“In life, bad times come,” he says after a beat. “I know that because of all those years of bullying. I always told myself that I can’t control what other people say or do, but I can control me. What I do. How I feel. So, you have to make the most of the good times. What I’m really scared of is regret. Life is too short to sit on the sidelines. I think you should go for what you want.” - Jack

Could it be that Jack’s an… adult, too? Most men I’ve ever met were man-boys. Second-stage larvae who hold grudges.

We’ve been programmed to believe that someday Prince Charming will just waltz into our life. Slay the dragon or whatever. But what if Prince Charming never arrives? We need to be able to save ourselves.

Only you can make yourself happy. No one else can do that. Stop trying to delegate the duty to someone else.

Valentine’s Day began as the Roman festival Lupercalia. The festival included fertility rites and the pairing off of women with men, usually by lottery. By lottery! Tell me how that’s at all romantic? Also, I believe the sacrificing of goats was involved.

Solo February is really about giving us the time and space to really think about who we are all on our own. How do I even know who I should be with, if I don’t even know who I am by myself? And, really, aren’t I better off alone than settling for something I don’t want? Rather than settling for men who don’t deserve me, I really ought to wait for the man who does.