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Ouch. Did you go for a meal? If so was that at least good?

Oh dear... This reminds me of the following story:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/artic...

Pixie wrote: "Ouch. Did you go for a meal? If so was that at least good?"

Nah. We just went to see a movie, talked for a while and he suggested drinks, but I was like "no, I have to get up early tomorrow." It was just a waste of time, the whole thing. And that awkward feedback talk after. Like, did he seriously want me to tell him what exactly I found unattractive in him?

Apeiron wrote: "Pixie wrote: "Ouch. Did you go for a meal? If so was that at least good?"

Nah. We just went to see a movie, talked for a while and he suggested drinks, but I was like "no, I have to get up early t..."

I'm sure he'd have an answer for any feedback you had. Dear goodness.

I once tried yahoo personals when I was in my early 20's, and I was very clear that I wasn't interested in someone a lot older than me. I had a man in his 50's message me, and I responded with one of those free replies that sorry the age gap is too much, and he proceeded to lecture me via message why I was wrong, and how right he was for me. Let's just say it didn't change my mind.

Apeiron wrote: "Pixie wrote: "Ouch. Did you go for a meal? If so was that at least good?"

Nah. We just went to see a movie, talked for a while and he suggested drinks, but I was like "no, I have to get up early t..."

This is why I hated dating. I refused to do it. It was awkward and like you said made me feel put on the spot. I'm bad with small talk. What movie did you see & would you recommend it?

Verity wrote: "Oh dear... This reminds me of the following story:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/artic......"

Oh my god yess :D Like that, with me making up excuses and telling him ~you deserve to be happy with someone else~ and him being all "nonsense, don't be such a quitter, if you don't take chances on relationships, you'll never be happy." I didn't have to pay him back, but I'd gladly hand over those $6 to spare myself from an hour of awkward talk. It was like when you get a free product, but in return have to fill out a 3-page feedback survey. No thanks.

That article is amazing.

MLE wrote: "I'm sure he'd have an answer for any feedback you had. Dear goodness.

I once tried yahoo personals when I was in my early 20's, and I was very clear that I wasn't interested in someone a lot older than me. I had a man in his 50's message me..."

Ew gross. The fucking sense of entitlement in that one. It's not the courthouse, you don't get to argue your way into someone's feelings.

If a woman did this shit, she'd be a creepy stalker, or at least desperate. But for men it's probably called negotiating or leadership skills or something.

Haha I just remembered the other week some stranger at a crowded bar tried to convince me that I should buy him a drink. It was a film festival (so at first I assumed he was some kinda director or producer and was being ~eccentric~) and I actually had this token thingy for a free whiskey+whateveryouwant and I offered him that. But no, he wouldn't have that, he HAD TO get a vodka drink, which of course wasn't free. That was so weird. I don't even think he was hitting on me, he just wanted me to pay for his drink.

Pixie wrote: "This is why I hated dating. I refused to do it. It was awkward and like you said made me feel put on the spot. I'm bad with small talk. What movie did you see & would you recommend it? "

I know, right? Dating is so pointless and uncomfortable and the person you're dating is probably chosen at random. I'll take friends-to-lovers anytime.

We saw this Polish thriller, 11 minutes which was pretty well-made (for a Polish movie) but at the same time felt really pointless as well. It's about a set of simultaneous random events between random people that leads to a dramatic climax.

And since it's a Polish movie, the main focus is sex, sketchy men, and how women are whores.

Apeiron wrote: "Pixie wrote: "This is why I hated dating. I refused to do it. It was awkward and like you said made me feel put on the spot. I'm bad with small talk. What movie did you see & would you recommend it..."

Mental note "say no to Polish movies". So is that a Polish thing "women are whores"? Might not visit then.

Pixie wrote: "Apeiron wrote: "Pixie wrote: "This is why I hated dating. I refused to do it. It was awkward and like you said made me feel put on the spot. I'm bad with small talk. What movie did you see & would ..."

I haven't seen a Polish movie in years and that was basically why. So I don't know if every movie is like that or I'm just unlucky :P I'm guessing there are good ones too, even some made by women, but I just... don't care about them.

But hey, the Polish Ida won an Oscar for best foreign movie last year. Most of my friends loved it (I still haven't seen ooops).

Apeiron wrote: "MLE wrote: "I'm sure he'd have an answer for any feedback you had. Dear goodness.

I once tried yahoo personals when I was in my early 20's, and I was very clear that I wasn't interested in someone..."

That is very odd.

Pixie wrote: "This is why I hated dating. I refused to do it. It was awkward and like you said made me feel put on the spot. I'm bad with small talk. "

RIGHT? I refused to do it, too.
The concept of dating is so strange. So many strange conventions attached that make it HARDER, not easier to get to know somebody. And especially if it is a date between a man and a woman, there is often all this awkward gender stuff going on.
Sorry, Apeiron, that it left such a bad feeling!

Dani wrote: "Pixie wrote: "This is why I hated dating. I refused to do it. It was awkward and like you said made me feel put on the spot. I'm bad with small talk. "

RIGHT? I refused to do it, too.
The concept..."

It is strange. Especially now with dating apps and online personals. I'm so glad to be old (in dating years) my last date was pre-cell phones so lucky for me I'd actually already met them in person.

Good thing you got your 'stand back' skills well honed Apeiron. Sad guy really.

Ida is good.