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In the IFS model, our hurts create "exiles" who bear our pain and trauma. To protect our core selves, "managers" arise. There are many managers. One is "Pleaser/Server."
"More than anything, Pleaser/Server needs others to be happy with it so it feels loved. And wanted. And needed. So that is has a place and a reason to exist."
For women, this is what is expected of us. To please. No wonder this manager thrives.
— Mar 29, 2024 03:54AM
"More than anything, Pleaser/Server needs others to be happy with it so it feels loved. And wanted. And needed. So that is has a place and a reason to exist."
For women, this is what is expected of us. To please. No wonder this manager thrives.
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Kim Shay
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Even if one doesn't completely agree with everything presented in the IFS paradigm, the chapter "Unburdened Faith" is worth the price of the book. If you grew up in a church that was works oriented while claiming it wasn't, this chapter will be a series of relieving epiphanies.
So much of what I experienced in my former church was "spiritualizing," not faith.
— Apr 02, 2024 03:32AM
So much of what I experienced in my former church was "spiritualizing," not faith.
Kim Shay
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I wish this book had been around 20 years ago.
The church needs to listen to therapists who find ways other than "You're a sinner" to help those with mental health issues or basic struggles.
Riemersma asserts that pain is a good thing because it highlights that there is something wrong. The notion that we must be happy-clappy all the time is unhealthy.
— Mar 27, 2024 03:42AM
The church needs to listen to therapists who find ways other than "You're a sinner" to help those with mental health issues or basic struggles.
Riemersma asserts that pain is a good thing because it highlights that there is something wrong. The notion that we must be happy-clappy all the time is unhealthy.
