Aubri’s Reviews > Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships > Status Update

She frames coming out as a binary variable, either you're in or you're out as non monogamous. And not coming out is viewed as hiding who you really are.

The lack of awareness and consideration of sexism, patriarchy, and misogyny in this codependency section is glaring.

I also found the descriptions of restorative justice to completely miss accountability and ownership of harm as one of the steps. Nothing is said about what a constructive and honest apology looks like, like the 3-part apology model. This felt like some cis het white man nonsense

She starts by saying that no one should label people's relationships as enmeshed or codependent; and then maybe 15 minutes later, is literally making that direct judgment of one of her past partners' relationships. I'm also having a hard time putting my finger on it, but this feels so very white and straight and cis focused, with no awareness of intersectionality or power dynamics.

Her anecdote about playing therapist and mediator to her mother and grandmother as a child isn't as cute as she thinks it is

Ugh. The use of object (it) and gendered pronouns for various internal parts heavily indicates this author needs to work on her gendered assumptions. "Princesses" or people who want to be the center of attention can be of any gender, not just women and girls. And our child and teenage selves are not "it" while other parts are humanized with "they" pronouns.