Darragh Conroy’s Reviews > The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness > Status Update

All people are in the condition of wanting to improve. There is no such thing as a 100% human. This is something we should actively acknowledge.

Instead of having vertical (hierarchical) relationships we should have horizontal (equal but not the same) relationships. All other forms of communication are manipulation. Laying on the compliments to your boss or your boss praising you so you will continue good work are all forms of manipulation. We should strive for horizontal relationships.

You hold the cards to all interpersonal relationships. True Freedom is having someone dislike you for being you. Disliking you is their task not yours.

True freedom is to not roll down the hill as a stone being worn away by other people’s opinions and suggestions. True freedom is pushing on up the slope and forging your own path.

Separation of tasks. Delineate out what is your task and what is someone else’s. Do not interfere with other people’s task and do not let other people encroach on your tasks.

Do not worry if you are not liked. That is someone else’s task. You do not need to do anything for approval. Do it because you ought to do it.

Teleology and Aeteleology. You choose your lifestyle. It is not based on cause and effect as Freud says. All problems are interpersonal relationship problems.