Kaiylah Muhammad's Blog - Posts Tagged "approval"
Social media is my self-esteem
It’s really crazy how the amount of likes, views and reposts you get on social media, can negatively or positively affect your self-esteem. We base our importance off of how other people view us more than ever because of social media. And granted every human wants attention, but the fact that how we feel about ourselves is based on how other people feel about us is soooo unhealthy. I keep saying "we" because I’m not excluded. This is something I struggle with too.
For people who didn’t get much attention as a child, maybe were bullied & picked on, maybe had an absent parent or perhaps had both parents, but didn’t receive much attention or affection from them... social media may be a way for them to fill that void.
The problem is when you stop getting as much attention. You stop getting as many likes. You stop getting as many comments. Then what? You start to feel like that insecure unloved child again. I’m speaking from personal experience.
So it’s important to view yourself, from your own eyes and not from the eyes of other people. But how do you do that? Well the first thing to remember is that social media is meant for connecting with other people. It should not be used as a way to fill a void from your childhood. It should not be used as a way to boost your self-esteem. It should not be used as a way to feed your ego.
Your importance as a person does not come from likes and followers. Although it may feel that way sometimes, you have to remember it's all an illusion. People who believe that their value comes from that, have a false sense of security.
For people who didn’t get much attention as a child, maybe were bullied & picked on, maybe had an absent parent or perhaps had both parents, but didn’t receive much attention or affection from them... social media may be a way for them to fill that void.
The problem is when you stop getting as much attention. You stop getting as many likes. You stop getting as many comments. Then what? You start to feel like that insecure unloved child again. I’m speaking from personal experience.
So it’s important to view yourself, from your own eyes and not from the eyes of other people. But how do you do that? Well the first thing to remember is that social media is meant for connecting with other people. It should not be used as a way to fill a void from your childhood. It should not be used as a way to boost your self-esteem. It should not be used as a way to feed your ego.
Your importance as a person does not come from likes and followers. Although it may feel that way sometimes, you have to remember it's all an illusion. People who believe that their value comes from that, have a false sense of security.
