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Ilene S. Cohen

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Dr. Ilene S. Cohen, PhD, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and mother of two young girls. She is one of the most respected voices in the psychology of people-pleasing and navigating the difficulty of living an intentional life while trying to maintain fulfilling relationships. She is the author of 5 books, all of which have received awards and 5-star ratings from her readers. These include her most famous book, When It's Never About You, and her latest book, Anxious for Answers.

She's a regular contributor to Psychology Today, with dedicated readers in the millions. Her books and therapy practice are fueled by a passion for helping people achieve their goals, build a strong sense of self, and lead fulfilling and meaningfu ...more

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When the Family Helper Needs Help: The hidden struggles of overfunctioners and what can be done about it

Are you the one everyone in your family turns to when there is a problem? If you answered yes, you know what it feels like to carry your family’s burdens and responsibilities on your shoulders. You are the one who remembers birthdays, organizes family gatherings, and steps in during a crisis. You are the glue that holds everyone together. But when you are overwhelmed or stressed, who is there for

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	When It's Never About You: The People-Pleaser's Guide to Reclaiming Your Health, Happiness and Personal Freedom 4.02 avg rating — 238 ratings — published 2017 — 3 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Anxious for Answers 4.30 avg rating — 53 ratings — 2 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	The Forgiveness Workbook: Cultivate Compassion, Release Resentment, and Find Peace 4.67 avg rating — 18 ratings — 2 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	This Isn't Working for Me: A Practical Guide for Making Every Relationship in Your Life More Fulfilling, Authentic, and Intentional by Ilene S. Cohen (Goodreads Author), Edrica D. Richardson 4.40 avg rating — 10 ratings — 2 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Not Enough You: A People-Pleaser's Journal for Recapturing Your Value and Worth 4.56 avg rating — 9 ratings	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	The Forgiveness Workbook: Cultivate Compassion, Release Resentment, and Find Peace (Workbook Series 1) 4.17 avg rating — 6 ratings — 4 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Adios, Anxiety: A reflective journal for finding the calm within you 4.75 avg rating — 4 ratings — 2 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	This Isn't Working for Me by Ilene S. Cohen (Goodreads Author), Edrica D. Richardson 4.50 avg rating — 4 ratings	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	It’s Within You it was amazing 5.00 avg rating — 3 ratings	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Anxious for Answers: The Surprising Truth About Anxiety, and How You Can Master It for Good! by Ilene S. Cohen (Goodreads Author), Natalie Cormier (Narrator) 0.00 avg rating — 0 ratings	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars

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“The words people say speak more about them than they do about you. If you can keep that in mind the next time someone tries to criticize your life and your choices, you won’t take their words to heart or make them mean anything about who you are as a person.”
― Ilene S. Cohen, When It's Never About You: The People-Pleaser's Guide to Reclaiming Your Health, Happiness and Personal Freedom

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“Cynthia Kersey reminds us, “The negative comments of others merely reflect their limitations—not yours.”
― Ilene S. Cohen, When It's Never About You: The People-Pleaser's Guide to Reclaiming Your Health, Happiness and Personal Freedom

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