Liz Mullinar's Blog

Healing is an ongoing journey.

Each of us can choose how much time and energy we want to give to improving and changing ourselves. The more time we give to our healing, the more effective the healing will be. It is as simple as that.

To optimise your healing, here are five key areas you should try and work on every day:

Below, you’ll find a brief overview of each focus area.

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One of the major effects of childhood trauma is that in our adult lives we often feel powerless, worthless and unimportant. This has a major impact on our ability to heal ourselves and impedes our ability to love ourselves.

The biggest and deepest impact of trauma is a feeling of powerlessness because we could not stop what was happening to us. This post will look at the feeling of powerlessness, why we experience it, and how to overcome it using positive aspirations.

As survivors of childhood trauma, each of us has suffered boundary violations in our childhood that will have impacted our ability to develop and maintain good boundaries in our adult lives.

If you were emotionally abused, you are likely to have poor emotional boundaries because you were not allowed to have your own feelings, and you probably found it safest to be told what to feel. If you were sexually or physically abused, you are likely to have poor physical boundaries as these boundaries...

Many survivors of childhood trauma have used social media platforms, such as Facebook and Instagram, as a form of connection or to gain validation.

The problem is that often there is little to no validation or real connection offered via these platforms, but rather a constant stream of highlighted moments of other people’s lives.

This blog post will examine how social media use may be hindering, rather than helping, your healing process.

As survivors of childhood trauma, recognising where our self-beliefs come from can help us change the way we think about ourselves.

Developing a healthy adult dialogue is also critically important if we are to take control of our lives in a positive, empowering way. One of the key ways you can do this is by gaining an understanding of Transactional Analysis and the three ‘ego states’.

Many of our day-to-day decisions and interactions with...

The key to successful healing is the understanding and the acceptance of feeling all emotions. In short, you need to allow yourself to feel if you want to heal.

Healing allows our emotions to be a self-expression of what is happening both in our internal world and external worlds, rather than the two worlds being in entirely difference spaces.

Often, the ‘external self’ does not allow the expression of feelings, as we try to protect ourselves from what was, or is, happening. But this only does...

As survivors of childhood trauma, we encounter many of our triggers on a daily basis. And, as outlined below, these triggers can have a huge negative impact on our lives.

However, it’s been proven that survivors can rid themselves of triggers permanently by processing trauma memories. By doing so, survivors are able to reclaim their lives from being dominated by childhood events and beliefs.

The triggers from our trauma impact us deeply and,...

As we embrace our healing journey, the single most important thing is to ensure that we feel safe, and ensure that we are living in a safe environment.

Safety is the most important consideration because feeling safe is necessary in order for recovery to be possible. A physical and emotional sense of safety needs to be the foundational focus of our healing.

Without both being safe and feeling safe, healing can only occur very slowly and falteringly, if at all, as the sympathetic nervous system...

You may have heard the term ‘triggering’, but what does it mean in the context of childhood trauma?

Triggering is the reminder of a trauma or an unsafe event that occurs when a person experiences, through the senses, a reminder of a similar sensual experience at the time of the original trauma.

When we are triggered into a fear reaction through our senses, the brain produces stress hormones to ensure an instant response. In other words, we cannot access reason or logic, or even sometimes the...

At Heal For Life, we believe that healing is about finding more love in your life – both self-love and love for others.

Our childhoods were directed and governed by fear, which was needed to protect us and keep us safe. But as adults, we have a choice: We can continue to let our lives be ruled by fear, often covered by anger, or we can choose to refocus and realign our brains to live in love.

That’s the focus of this blog post – learning how to live in love, not fear, as you continue to heal.