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“Overcome Shyness
Here are some tips for overcoming shyness:
• Work on your listening and communications skills.
• Learn more about reading nonverbal communication, such as body language
and facial expressions.
• Let others take the lead in conversations, then jump in after the discussion
has begun.
• Observe others in environments that elicit shyness in you.
• Learn to smile. It’s an ice-breaker.
• Learn to ask questions. That starts conversations.”
― 151 Quick Ideas to Improve Your People Skills
Here are some tips for overcoming shyness:
• Work on your listening and communications skills.
• Learn more about reading nonverbal communication, such as body language
and facial expressions.
• Let others take the lead in conversations, then jump in after the discussion
has begun.
• Observe others in environments that elicit shyness in you.
• Learn to smile. It’s an ice-breaker.
• Learn to ask questions. That starts conversations.”
― 151 Quick Ideas to Improve Your People Skills
“Forgive Yourself for Failings
So, you messed up. Have you taken the steps outlined in this book, such as
mending fences, eating crow, offering a peace pipe, and breaking bread?
If so, then all you can do is get on with your life. You’ve done all you can to
correct the situation. Sometimes we have to just give people space to get over
something—and we have to forgive ourselves, too.
Beating yourself up over and over about a situation only continues to keep the
situation alive, not only in your mind, but in the other person’s mind as well. And it
puts you at risk of making the same mistake again.
If you’ve apologized, tried to restore the trust in the relationship, and changed
your behavior, then you’ve done your part. You’ve adequately taken responsibility,
and that’s something in which you can find honor.
We all mess up with each other from time to time. When you mess up, do the
right thing, then forgive yourself and move on.”
― 151 Quick Ideas to Improve Your People Skills
So, you messed up. Have you taken the steps outlined in this book, such as
mending fences, eating crow, offering a peace pipe, and breaking bread?
If so, then all you can do is get on with your life. You’ve done all you can to
correct the situation. Sometimes we have to just give people space to get over
something—and we have to forgive ourselves, too.
Beating yourself up over and over about a situation only continues to keep the
situation alive, not only in your mind, but in the other person’s mind as well. And it
puts you at risk of making the same mistake again.
If you’ve apologized, tried to restore the trust in the relationship, and changed
your behavior, then you’ve done your part. You’ve adequately taken responsibility,
and that’s something in which you can find honor.
We all mess up with each other from time to time. When you mess up, do the
right thing, then forgive yourself and move on.”
― 151 Quick Ideas to Improve Your People Skills
“Practice Good Listening
The most important element of good listening is simple: You have to want to
understand the other person’s point of view. Listening is not about agreeing, or
defending. It’s not about how often you nod your head in the conversation, how
many times you recap what the person said, or how many affirmations you give to
the other person. Those are techniques to help you become a better listener, but
they are not listening in themselves.
The fundamental purpose of listening is to gather information about the other
person, to understand where he’s coming from, how she views a situation, or what
he values. If you sit quietly and let others do the talking, you can have an excellent
opportunity to learn, to gather information. And that can be very powerful—in
several ways.”
― 151 Quick Ideas to Improve Your People Skills
The most important element of good listening is simple: You have to want to
understand the other person’s point of view. Listening is not about agreeing, or
defending. It’s not about how often you nod your head in the conversation, how
many times you recap what the person said, or how many affirmations you give to
the other person. Those are techniques to help you become a better listener, but
they are not listening in themselves.
The fundamental purpose of listening is to gather information about the other
person, to understand where he’s coming from, how she views a situation, or what
he values. If you sit quietly and let others do the talking, you can have an excellent
opportunity to learn, to gather information. And that can be very powerful—in
several ways.”
― 151 Quick Ideas to Improve Your People Skills
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