S.A. Alonso's Blog

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You don’t need to “be less intimidating.”
You don’t need to contort yourself into the Cool Girl archetype.
You don’t need to dim your brilliance so someone will finally choose you.

The truth is:
When you embody your sovereign self—emotionally anchored, energetically whole—you become magnetic to love that honors your depth.

Not because you’re chasing it.
But because you’ve stopped settling for anything that doesn’t match you.

This is the path of sacred femininity.
It ...

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They micromanage.
They gaslight.
They manipulate, take credit, dodge blame, and smile in meetings like they’re your biggest supporter.

Toxic bosses aren’t just annoying—they are psychologically and spiritually harmful.

But why are there so many of them?

And why do we tolerate them for so long?

Corporate systems were not built to nurture.
They were built to extract.
And many leaders rise not because they’re emotionally i...

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We like to think of inner children as sweet, hurt, fragile beings.
But what about the inner child who’s angry?
Who yells.
Who slams doors.
Who pushes people away and then cries about being alone?

That child lives in many of us—
unseen, unacknowledged, unintegrated.

She learned early that her needs weren’t safe to express.
That if she screamed, no one would listen.
Or worse—they’d punish her for it.

So she buried it.
Until it began to leak—through passive aggression, rag...

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There was a time I knew everything about him.
The way his voice softened mid-sentence. The slope of his shoulders in every dance rehearsal. The exact timestamp of his half-smile in a behind-the-scenes clip.

He had no idea who I was.
But I was convinced I knew him—deeply, spiritually, soulfully.
It was a love story, or so I believed.
But it was also a prison.

This is how parasocial relationships and limerence work:
They offer a stage where your deepest longings play out,...

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There is a woman inside you who knows who she is.
She doesn’t overexplain.
She doesn’t chase.
She doesn’t shrink herself to be chosen.
She chooses herself—again and again.

But maybe you’ve lost touch with her.
Maybe you’ve been shape-shifting for years—becoming what others needed, abandoning what you wanted.
Now, you feel like a stranger to yourself.

This is what happens when your sense of Self gets fragmented.
When your self-worth depends on who’s approving of you.
When y...

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There’s a version of you that doesn’t get posted on social media.
The one who flares up in jealousy.
Who shuts down when someone gets too close.
Who secretly judges people, then feels guilty for it.
Who self-sabotages, then pretends she has it all under control.

This version of you isn’t evil.
She isn’t broken.
She’s your shadow.

And she wants to be heard.

Shadow work is the process of meeting the parts of you that you’ve rejected—
the unlovable...

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We live in an age of curated intimacy.
Where a K-pop idol looks into the camera and calls you “baby.”
Where a K-drama kiss scene makes your heart flutter more than real-life love ever has.
Where a C-drama character whispers the words you’ve always wanted to hear—and your body believes it’s meant for you.

And somewhere along the way, the line between reality and fantasy quietly dissolves.

This is the seduction of parasocial relationships—
emotional entanglements with pe...

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There’s a particular ache that’s rarely spoken of,
a slow bleed behind smiles and soft kisses—
the ache of knowing your lover had a life before you.

You scroll, you ask, you imagine.
You compare.
And what begins as curiosity
soon turns into a tormenting obsession.
You feel like you’re trying to win against someone from the past.

This is retroactive jealousy.

Not just jealousy—retroactive jealousy.
A looping mental fixation on your partner’s past relationships, sexual h...

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Limerence and celebrity obsession often go hand in hand, creating parasocial relationships—one-sided emotional attachments to public figures. If you find yourself deeply fixated on a celebrity, constantly consuming their media, and fantasizing about them as an ideal romantic partner, you’re not alone. However, this pattern can be unhealthy and take you further away from experiencing real love and fulfilling relationships.

In this post, we’ll explore why you may be fee...

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Have you ever found yourself frustrated by the actions or opinions of others? Do you often feel emotionally drained by trying to control situations beyond your power? If so, Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory might be the mindset shift you need to cultivate greater happiness and emotional freedom in your life.

In this blog post, we’ll explore the Let Them Theory, how it applies to relationships and friendships, and how you can use it to set healthy emotional boundaries and ...