Louise Fields writes about relationships with honesty, humor, and a deep compassion for the messy, hopeful ways we love. With a background in psychology and decades of real-life lessons (including dating and sometimes marrying the “wrong letters”), she developed the Alphabet Theory — a playful-but-true way of exploring why we’re drawn to certain partners and how we can choose better for ourselves.

Her mission is to help people understand their patterns without shame, laugh at the beautifully human parts of themselves, and create relationships that feel like home instead of confusion.

When she’s not writing, you can find her developing new self-reflection tools, designing personality-style quizzes for readers, or enjoying everyday life with he ...more

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Dear Past Me: Stop Texting Him Back

Dear Past Me,

I love you. Truly. You did your best with the tools you had—intuition, butterflies, optimism, and that one friend who gave terrible advice but had great hair. And honestly? Those tools took us pretty far.

But we need to talk about the texting, especially texting him.

Because I recall how it happened.

He’d send “hey” at 11:47 PM.
No punctuation.
No context.
Not even a question mark.

And yo

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How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self

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Louise Fields is starting How to Do the Work: About 10% into How to Do the Work. Definitely a heavier, more introspective read — taking it slowly so I can absorb what it’s offering. How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self by Nicole LePera progress:	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
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Louise Fields is starting Attached: 45% through Attached. Insightful, accessible, and a great refresher on attachment styles. Really appreciating how clearly the authors explain the patterns behind how we connect. Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine progress:	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
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“You don’t need to be easier to love. You just need to be loved by someone who actually knows how.”
― Louise Fields, Stop Dating the Wrong Letters: A Playful-but-True Guide to Finding Love That Fits (Alphabetically Speaking)

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“Sometimes the lesson isn’t about why you chose the wrong person. It’s about why you stayed.”
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tags: boundaries, emotional-awareness, healing, relationships, self-growth

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“Love is not supposed to feel like a guessing game. Real love feels like an exhale.”
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“Patterns don’t repeat because we’re weak. They repeat because they once felt familiar enough to feel like home.”
― Louise Fields, Stop Dating the Wrong Letters: A Playful-but-True Guide to Finding Love That Fits (Alphabetically Speaking)

tags: emotional-insight, healing-journey, inner-work, patterns, relationships, self-awareness

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“If the relationship requires you to become smaller, quieter, or less yourself, it’s not a relationship—it’s a performance.”
― Louise Fields, Stop Dating the Wrong Letters Companion Guide: Decode Love, One Letter at a Time

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