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Meryn G. Callander

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Meryn Callander was born in Portland, Australia, in 1952. She graduated from Monash University, Melbourne, with degrees in both economics and social work. At 25, she quit her position working with children in crisis, feeling she was doing little but applying Band-Aids to gaping wounds. Searching for that illusive something more, she headed to Europe, and then the U.S.

It was there she met John W. Travis, M.D., known to many as the founding father of wellness. Their marriage and professional partnership spanned almost three decades, during which time they pushed the leading edges of wellness—going well beyond the popular focus on nutrition and physical fitness, into the mental and emotional, interpersonal and spiritual dimensions of wellbein Meryn Callander was born in Portland, Australia, in 1952. She graduated from Monash University, Melbourne, with degrees in both economics and social work. At 25, she quit her position working with children in crisis, feeling she was doing little but applying Band-Aids to gaping wounds. Searching for that illusive something more, she headed to Europe, and then the U.S.

It was there she met John W. Travis, M.D., known to many as the founding father of wellness. Their marriage and professional partnership spanned almost three decades, during which time they pushed the leading edges of wellness—going well beyond the popular focus on nutrition and physical fitness, into the mental and emotional, interpersonal and spiritual dimensions of wellbeing. They co-authored several pioneering books on wellness, and facilitated seminars and retreats in the U.S. and internationally.

In 1993, Meryn became a mother. After decades of working in adult wellness, she gleaned a whole new appreciation of how profoundly our early years impact the wellbeing of the adults we become. In 1999 she co-founded, and served for several years as president of, the Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children. The Alliance emerged from a core group of interdisciplinary experts dedicated to supporting caregivers, professionals, and policymakers in practicing the art and science of nurturing children.

Why Dads Leave: Insights and Resources for When Partners Become Parents (whydadsleave.com) grew out of their journey through the early years of parenting. While John stayed well beyond the challenges of those early years, their experiences compelled her to identify the dynamics underlying the epidemic of men leaving their families—physically or emotionally—soon after the birth of a child, and how couples can grow together rather than apart. The book offers insights and practical ways of preventing the devastating impact of this dynamic.

Her latest book, After His Affair: Women Rising from the Ashes of Infidelity is a reflection of her concern at the escalating rates of infidelity and the devastation that is left in its wake. How can we, as women, make good of our heartbreak? And how might we avoid—or heal from—the trauma of infidelity?

Meryn is a counselor, spiritual intuitive, and akashic reader. ...more

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Two or three years prior to writing this book, the word infidelity was not in my vocabulary. I had li…moreWhere did you get the idea for your current book?

Two or three years prior to writing this book, the word infidelity was not in my vocabulary. I had lived in a world where “no one I knew,” had an affair. Then, one day, it seemed my world turned upside down. Suddenly, in a state of shock myself, I was hearing from women who had been betrayed—and women who have, themselves, betrayed.

It was as if a door had opened into a whole new world I had been oblivious to—the devastation, indeed trauma, that a woman experiences on finding her partner has cheated on her. I discovered that many women carry remnants—albeit unconsciously— of this trauma in their body and psyche even years later. I discovered how deeply her partner’s betrayal impacts not only her, but also her children.

Seeing how deep infidelity cuts, and how the pain ripples out to touch our families and communities, I felt deeply concerned that infidelity has become an accepted way to exit or to challenge a committed relationship, or simply to “get a bit on the side.” And deeply concerned that every act of infidelity normalizes and legitimizes another.

I believe that as is true for many authors, I don't get to choose what I write about, it chooses me. Whatever I write about is a reflection of what is showing up in my own life at the time. It is in part, my attempt to understand and make sense of my world—and my desire, my need, to share that understanding and encourage dialog around issues of current import and relevance.
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	Why Dads Leave: Insights & Resources for When Partners Become Parents by Meryn G. Callander (Goodreads Author), Gabor Maté (Contributor), John W. Travis (Contributor) 4.36 avg rating — 14 ratings — published 2011 — 4 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	After His Affair: Women Rising from the Ashes of Infidelity 4.80 avg rating — 10 ratings — published 2014 — 2 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	A Change of Heart: The Global Wellness Inventory : An Evaluation of Personal Relationship to the Wellness of Our Planet by Meryn G. Callander (Goodreads Author), John W. Travis it was amazing 5.00 avg rating — 1 rating — published 1994 — 3 editions	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
	Wellness for Helping Professionals: Creating Compassionate Culture by John W. Travis, Meryn G. Callander (Goodreads Author) it was amazing 5.00 avg rating — 1 rating	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars

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“Virtually all women will always carry the scars and a deep sense of loss and grief from the betrayal. Whether a woman has stayed, left, or been left, it must be remembered that time is the salve on this journey towards forgiveness and healing, because it is also a process of grieving.”
― Meryn G. Callander, After His Affair: Women Rising from the Ashes of Infidelity

tags: affair, cheating, infidelity, partner, relationships, unfaithful

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“I will eternally give thanks for those women who essentially said, ‘Yes, I see you. And I love you. I see your pain. You have every right to be right where you are, right now. And you will come through this. You will.”
― Meryn G. Callander, After His Affair: Women Rising from the Ashes of Infidelity

tags: affair, cheating, infidelity, partner, relationships, unfaithful

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“As mature adults, are we not called to a level of discrimination and consideration for the repercussions of our actions on others? Yes, the power of that surge of sexual energy cannot be underestimated—but knowing that every feeling, every impulse, does not need to be acted on … at what cost does a person follow that desire? At what cost to one’s own sense of self-worth and integrity, and at what cost to others?”
― Meryn G. Callander, After His Affair: Women Rising from the Ashes of Infidelity