Tonya Coffey's Blog - Posts Tagged "kids"
Heartache of Life
When I was younger, I would argue with people over my family. I would tell them I had a family who would stand together and it didn't matter what would happen, we were one. The older I get the more I realize people change. We may still talk and spend the holidays together but we have out own lives and our own responsibilities.
My older sister hasn't had an easy life. She has struggled with who she is and what she wants out of it but the one thing she stands up for is her kids. She has three. They are all older and the youngest is why I ask my self about family.
When my sister divorced her husband, the youngest daughters dad, my niece was fifteen. She went a little wild and went against both her mom and dad but she ended up staying mostly with my mom.
Long story short, she got pregnant. My mom helped her through high school and baby sat while she worked. My parents aren't young but they love my niece and her son.
When my niece met a new boy, she decided my parents weren't good enough for her or her son so she left and refused to talk to anyone in the family or let anyone see the boy. This of course broke my parents heart and my sister still cries over it.
The heartache of the story is, my sister found out recently she has breast cancer. After she found out, she begged her daughter to see her grandson but she won't even answer the phone for her.
I don't understand how she-the daughter-can be so cruel to her mother. Her life wasn't perfect but my sister and my parents done everything they could to make her happy and she still doesn't see they were helping her.
It's been a year since then and my sister is going through chemo. She struggles with the loss of her hair. I know that is petty to most people but to her it was everything next to her kids. And it was all she had since the kids are all gone with lives of their own. And my niece, she has another child. A girl. My sisters only two grand-kids and she isn't allowed to see them.
It breaks my heart that a daughter can be so cruel to her mother when there is daughters out there who would give anything to have a mother like her.
My older sister hasn't had an easy life. She has struggled with who she is and what she wants out of it but the one thing she stands up for is her kids. She has three. They are all older and the youngest is why I ask my self about family.
When my sister divorced her husband, the youngest daughters dad, my niece was fifteen. She went a little wild and went against both her mom and dad but she ended up staying mostly with my mom.
Long story short, she got pregnant. My mom helped her through high school and baby sat while she worked. My parents aren't young but they love my niece and her son.
When my niece met a new boy, she decided my parents weren't good enough for her or her son so she left and refused to talk to anyone in the family or let anyone see the boy. This of course broke my parents heart and my sister still cries over it.
The heartache of the story is, my sister found out recently she has breast cancer. After she found out, she begged her daughter to see her grandson but she won't even answer the phone for her.
I don't understand how she-the daughter-can be so cruel to her mother. Her life wasn't perfect but my sister and my parents done everything they could to make her happy and she still doesn't see they were helping her.
It's been a year since then and my sister is going through chemo. She struggles with the loss of her hair. I know that is petty to most people but to her it was everything next to her kids. And it was all she had since the kids are all gone with lives of their own. And my niece, she has another child. A girl. My sisters only two grand-kids and she isn't allowed to see them.
It breaks my heart that a daughter can be so cruel to her mother when there is daughters out there who would give anything to have a mother like her.
Small Town Politics
I'm not big on voicing my opinion when it comes to politics. I listen to what each candidate has to say then I cast my own vote to help me or my family. People don't sway my opinion either way or another. It's my choice.
So my small town is in a debate on whether to have alcohol in stores. Our county has voted on his topic at least four times in the last few years. I may be exaggerating because I think you have to wait so many years before you can resubmit the petition again. Anyway, our county sits in the center of a dozen other counties who already sell alcohol. Our neighbors, where my husband works, started selling a few years ago. Their town has already grown, bringing in three big restaurants, of course liquor stores and a healthy tax which they expanded their police and made the park even better. I read the small school even received money for better computers and other things the classes didn't have before.
As I drive down the road and I see Vote No signs and I hear people saying it would be wrong to have it in the county, I wonder why they are so against it. They worry their kids will purchase it. Kids will get their hands on it one way or another. If a teen wants to try alcohol they will, it doesn't matter if they sell it in the county they grew up in or not.
I heard bars would move it and destroy what little peace we had. This isn't the seventies when bars where the only place to drink. Families do alot of stuff in restaurants where you can buy drinks. Applebees, Renos, Texas Roadhouse, Olive Garden, and there are so many more that are family restaurants.
The biggest thing I heard was DUI's would increase. Would someone who has to drive an extra thirty minutes be more likely to open a can and drink it on the way home or someone who buys it ten minutes from their home? Umm makes you understand why DUI's are big right now.
I get why people are worried. They think the town will fall into a dark spiraling spin of drunks and parties. If I had to be honest, I think I would rather have drunks then the druggies that run our town now. I believe if you teach your kids about alcohol and you show them it isn't something that is the devils elixir then they wouldn't want to get drunk. They would respect it more.
My opinion of the vote. I want it to go through. I would love for our poor, backwoods county to become something other then the drug and welfare rich county it is. I want my kids to have somewhere better to live. I want them to settle in here when they get out of school.
We need jobs. We need tourism but we can't have anything if our county doesn't want to change with the times.
It's sad when Christian volunteers who come from out of state have to take their families into the next county to sit down at a restaurant, drink wine and watch a movie. What a waste of money our county could be using.
So my small town is in a debate on whether to have alcohol in stores. Our county has voted on his topic at least four times in the last few years. I may be exaggerating because I think you have to wait so many years before you can resubmit the petition again. Anyway, our county sits in the center of a dozen other counties who already sell alcohol. Our neighbors, where my husband works, started selling a few years ago. Their town has already grown, bringing in three big restaurants, of course liquor stores and a healthy tax which they expanded their police and made the park even better. I read the small school even received money for better computers and other things the classes didn't have before.
As I drive down the road and I see Vote No signs and I hear people saying it would be wrong to have it in the county, I wonder why they are so against it. They worry their kids will purchase it. Kids will get their hands on it one way or another. If a teen wants to try alcohol they will, it doesn't matter if they sell it in the county they grew up in or not.
I heard bars would move it and destroy what little peace we had. This isn't the seventies when bars where the only place to drink. Families do alot of stuff in restaurants where you can buy drinks. Applebees, Renos, Texas Roadhouse, Olive Garden, and there are so many more that are family restaurants.
The biggest thing I heard was DUI's would increase. Would someone who has to drive an extra thirty minutes be more likely to open a can and drink it on the way home or someone who buys it ten minutes from their home? Umm makes you understand why DUI's are big right now.
I get why people are worried. They think the town will fall into a dark spiraling spin of drunks and parties. If I had to be honest, I think I would rather have drunks then the druggies that run our town now. I believe if you teach your kids about alcohol and you show them it isn't something that is the devils elixir then they wouldn't want to get drunk. They would respect it more.
My opinion of the vote. I want it to go through. I would love for our poor, backwoods county to become something other then the drug and welfare rich county it is. I want my kids to have somewhere better to live. I want them to settle in here when they get out of school.
We need jobs. We need tourism but we can't have anything if our county doesn't want to change with the times.
It's sad when Christian volunteers who come from out of state have to take their families into the next county to sit down at a restaurant, drink wine and watch a movie. What a waste of money our county could be using.
