Passionate Non-Attachment? Is that a thing?

It is! It is the paradoxical state known in Law of Attraction circles as “passionate non-attachment” or “passionate detachment.”

Passionate detachment is important in the Law of Attraction world because it ensures that you are so committed to enjoying this moment that you don’t over-focus on something you can’t ever completely control: Future outcome. It’s a fantastic reminder to stay flexible and be grateful for even those outcomes that look nothing like what we expected.

The definition of passionate is “expressing or being ruled by strong feeling.” It is these big, in-the-moment feelings that make it fun to go for your dream. Passion is the car that drives you, the vehicle that enables you to travel the necessary road to manifest your want. Passion is also the energy that alerts the universe that you are serious about your desire. You are not detached about the action itself. On the contrary, you are filled with passion in each passing moment.

Detachment, on the other hand, is about the future. Defined as “the state of being objective, separated or aloof,” detachment requires that you completely surrender and let go of your concern for the outcome of your action.

On the surface, combining detachment with passion seems nearly impossible. But I’ll tell you a secret: It’s doable if you remember that passion is you, sitting in a moving car, windows rolled down, your favorite song playing, being fully present and “in the moment” as you enjoy the sensations of sun, sound, wind and speed. Detachment is your future destination—the restaurant or roadstop or relative’s home you are traveling toward.

Let’s say you want to lose 20 pounds before your high school reunion. You add in plenty of exercise and even work on your “appearance mindset.” You joyfully hit the gym, learn to love leafy green veggies and give up processed food. By the time your reuinion rolls around, you have not lost 20 pounds. What you have done, however, is shed 14 pounds, two dress sizes, and your persistent acne. You’ve also gained great muscle definition and outrageous energy. By passionately doing the work, you traveled from your original out-of-shape life toward great health. Did great health look like the 20 pound weight loss you originally set out for? In this case, no. But what you got was still pretty damn fabulous.

For another view of passionate detachment, have a look at this Hay House article. 

Focus on doing your desire’s work and you are guaranteed to be in a better place than you are now—even if that place doesn’t look exactly like the place you originally envisioned.

Resources:

— Passionate detachment is a tough concept. If you need further support, Karen Casey has a number of great books on the subject. Her Let Go Now: Embracing Detachment  is an easy (yet powerful) book on affirmations.

— Longing and Letting Go: Christian and Hindu Practices of Passionate Non-Attachment (Oxford University Press), by Holly Hillgardner. This scholarly book offers a deep, theology-based look at the concept of non-attachment.

— First Steps to Freedom: Achieving Non-Attachment in Everyday Life (Harper Collins), by Ronald Shone, is a practiceal guide to achieving non-attachment.

— Let Go Now: Embracing Detachment as a Path to Freedom (Conari Press), by Karen Casey. If codependency is derailing your life, this is your book. Do you ever feel like you might be giving other people too much power over your mood? Do you find yourself feeling immobilized by expectations and demands? The cure for codependency is detachment, says Karen Casey, best-selling author of over forty books that have helped fans around the world.

— Let Go Now: Embrace Detachment as a Path to Freedom, (Tantor Audio), by Karen Casey. This seeming paradox holds the key to your inner peace and that of those around you. This is the audio version of the book, Let Go Now. 

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