In the year 2023, the world was 70% fascist, meaning greed and control were running the show in most of our world. Lacking any integrity, dictators ruled over the people in ways they not only didn’t agree to but were forced into unsafe and even abusive to life-threatening situations against their will. A dark time in history when humans were experiencing the highest levels of narcissistic social disorder. Beyond unfortunate were the lives that were lost, the voices and choices that were suppressed, even in places and spaces in our world that had once been free. Double standards and wrongdoing without consequence plowed its way through every system, showing every ill imaginable. While there was little to no justice or recourse.

The fools are fascinated by the (false) shiny words and propaganda. The intelligent were suppressed and slowly silenced. Ama would say that if a child has to grow up with a controlling authoritarian or an enabler, they’ll make more out of the influence of the authoritarian because it is more likely they will try to please the authoritarian and live up to the expectations that come with that. While unhealthy, this will motivate them to make a life of their own.

Conversely, a child who fights against it could also excel to change the tide, as they can feel it’s wrong because that is most often why people rebel. This gave a chance at their own uniquely expressed life and the freedom that comes with it. Ama’s generation was raised by authoritarians and was a highly capable, quiet generation that nobody talked about. This generation was the perfect catalyst and age to be at the helm as wise adults when The Model was falling apart. They were seasoned at living in deep chaos, so they knew it was possible to overturn, even though from the outside it looked almost impossible.

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The enabler had compassion for the generation of their children who were hurting so badly from generational trauma. They had lived through a parent who was a controlling authoritarian, and therefore would do the opposite by controlling their child through feeling sorry for them and consequently enabling them. This was a recipe for children to never move out of the house, to not create constructive plans with purpose. These kids are often glued to media as a source of comfort and entertainment, to what was seemingly “safe”.

Ama watched her peers parent their children, but these parents never set up and stood by any real and therefore fair consequences by which their child could learn. These parents felt sorry for their children and had many reasons why. Failed marriages with narcissists, socially disordered partners. Economic insecurity, and more. I’ll point out that the source of the narcissistic social disorder stems from unmet needs. The same was the problem for the enabler, which is why the tension and strong co-existence between the two.

Mothers would say, “There is no identifiable way to make motherhood a balanced process”. Ama agreed. She thought about this philosophically regularly, and it seemed to her that the hardest position in society was being a mother. Mothers had emotional needs that went chronically unheard and unmet; their only choice was to put on a happy face and endure.

They were depleted and giving in all directions, yet were still told they were not doing a good enough job. There was little to no validation for the emotional, mental, and physical work mothers put into their children. Nobody loved each other; in truth, they were only surviving. Turning to things to be able to tune out, even for just a moment.

For others, they became too perfect an example and secretly felt overwhelmed by it all. Whatever the circumstance, leaving The Model for mothers was an impossibility, but that’s no longer true. Ama believed we’d change one by one and express again into our needs and find the places and spaces where these very needs were well-nourished.

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