Perhaps you are wondering, “What do other recovering couples struggle with in their day-to-day lives? The following are some common problems with which recovering couples regularly grapple. Do you struggle with any of these?

Mixed feelings about your partner
Mixed feelings about your job
Mixed feelings about yourself
Mixed feelings about your friends
Mixed feelings about staying abstinent
Mixed feelings about being involved with family members
Mediocre sex
Unexpressed feelings and thoughts
Difficulty enjoying “moments” together
Mixed feelings about having to work at sustaining your relationship with a higher power and being of service to others
The inability to see the craziness of your relationship without feeling shame
The inability to find a recovering community you enjoy
The inability to expose your vulnerability to your partner
The inability to soothe yourself when unsteady

Recovering couples face a wide range of struggles. Some are on the extremely difficult end of the spectrum, where emotions can be explosive and relationships very rocky. Others are on the low end, where partners can become so disconnected they might as well not be in a relationship. Suffice it to say, every recovering couple is somewhere on the struggle spectrum and always a work in progress. You can take comfort from the fact that there isn’t a recovering couple on this earth who is not wrestling with some of the same issues that you already have, or are going to have, to deal with during the lifespan of your relationship.