In It's Just A F***ing Date there's a section in the book called but Greg and Amiira, I Have Question! Where we take the opportunity to answer some of the more interesting questions sent to us.  So assuming life doesn't get too in the way, we're going to try answering questions here weekly.  Some weeks you'll get Greg, some weeks you'll get me, others both of us answering your questions. You get the picture, no need to over explain is.  Anyway here goes. I'm at bat this week.
Dear Greg and Amiira,Here's the deal, I've always been the kind of woman to say that men SUCK... pretty much all the time.  That's just been my experience.  I've been blown off, cheated on, lied to and treated like shit by men who proclaim to care about be.  Basically my faith in men, love and a good relationship is gone. I took a year sabbatical from the opposite sex and now that my biological clock is getting close to ticking I have to open myself up to getting hurt again dating.  I'm scared shitless and I think I come off as really unapproachable because my wall is so high.  How do I put myself out there when I'm still such a scaredy cat?

Emmafrom cyberspace

Dear Emma,
First let me say that I am truly sorry for the long crappy relationship road that you've travelled down so far.  It sucks giant balls.  There's no way around it and the men you were dating were amateurs and adolescents.  Many of them are, hell most of them are until they meet someone that makes them want to be a better man.  You just haven't found the guy who has his life changing moment when he sees your face.  Which is a GOOD THING.  Know why?  Because you are a glacier right now.  There's now way he could melt that ice surrounding your heart.  But you did the right thing, you took a vacation from putting yourself in harms way to recharge you batteries and mend your scraped knees.  How do you put yourself back out there?  By remembering that the things we value the most are those that we've worked hard for and earned.   The long path up shitty boyfriend hill is you earning your way to a meaningful, lasting love where you are singularly adored and appreciated.  The broken woman who fought her way back and put her fragile heart back out there is the beginning to the kick ass story that your best friend tells as her toast at your wedding.
Amiira xx