Spouses often become suspicious of infidelity because something is disrupting the normal day to day functioning of their relationship. The offender may be angry, critical or dissatisfied. He may act guilty, anxious or disengaged. Attention, including sexual, may decrease, or in fact, increase.

One gay man confronted his partner, saying “Do you have a boy friend? You’re no longer present here with me in this relationship.”

Men who have sex with men are often the focus of the spouses' concerns. Some women have gone searching for clues, and having found some, put their spouse "on probation." Perhaps this may responsible for the strong interest in Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight among women. There is more interest from women that I had expected.

We've been working dilligently to make the last minute changes in the book before it goes to print in early March. Pre-orders have been strong; that's encouraging. The number of requests for the "giveaway" books almost blew me away!

I have been working on promotional activities as well. I have written articles for several journals and web sites and I am continuing to get requests.

I will be speaking in Boston at a Harvard writers' workshop and also at the Brookline Mental Health Center in late March. Will also be doing book signings there.