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These books have informed my understanding of the history, sociology, and science of romantic and platonic love—and how the relationship anarchy paradigm can bring resilience and conscious creation into all of our relationships.

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1	Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern 4.34 avg rating — 17,418 ratings score: 290, and 3 people voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
2	Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski (Goodreads Author) 4.27 avg rating — 91,515 ratings score: 187, and 2 people voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
3	Radical Belonging: How to Survive + Thrive in an Unjust World by Lindo Bacon 4.06 avg rating — 470 ratings score: 185, and 2 people voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
4	Sex from Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules by Sarah Mirk (Goodreads Author) 3.76 avg rating — 662 ratings score: 184, and 2 people voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
5	What Love Is: And What It Could Be by Carrie Jenkins (Goodreads Author) 3.58 avg rating — 695 ratings score: 100, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
5	Relationship Anarchy: Occupy Intimacy! by Juan-Carlos Pérez-Cortés (Goodreads Author) 4.28 avg rating — 491 ratings score: 100, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
5	You Don't Have to Do It Alone: The Power of Friendship by Mark Nepo 3.87 avg rating — 53 ratings score: 100, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
5	Deep Listening: Transform Your Relationships with Family, Friends, and Foes by Emily Kasriel (Goodreads Author) 3.86 avg rating — 311 ratings score: 100, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
9	Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships by Meg-John Barker 4.38 avg rating — 308 ratings score: 99, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
9	Radical Intimacy by Sophie K. Rosa 4.10 avg rating — 2,396 ratings score: 99, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
9	The Book of Ecstasy: Opening Yourself Up to Erotic Energy―In All Its Forms by Barbara Carrellas 4.12 avg rating — 16 ratings score: 99, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
12	Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic by Esther Perel 4.17 avg rating — 52,382 ratings score: 98, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
12	Abolish the Family: A Manifesto for Care and Liberation by Sophie Lewis 3.67 avg rating — 1,990 ratings score: 98, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
14	Marriage, a History: From Obedience to Intimacy or How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz (Goodreads Author) 3.98 avg rating — 3,784 ratings score: 97, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
15	The Psychology of Sex by Meg John Barker 3.83 avg rating — 190 ratings score: 96, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
16	Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark A. Michaels (Goodreads Author) 3.67 avg rating — 865 ratings score: 95, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
17	The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel 4.35 avg rating — 24,714 ratings score: 94, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
18	Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans by Michaeleen Doucleff 4.13 avg rating — 38,695 ratings score: 92, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
19	The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker 3.94 avg rating — 30,900 ratings score: 89, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
20	The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival by Kathy Labriola 3.91 avg rating — 388 ratings score: 88, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
21	Life Is Friends: A Complete Guide to the Lost Art of Connecting in Person by Jeanne Martinet (Goodreads Author) 3.30 avg rating — 132 ratings score: 87, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
22	Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed (Goodreads Author) 4.14 avg rating — 146,041 ratings score: 86, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
23	Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close by Aminatou Sow (Goodreads Author) 3.74 avg rating — 25,433 ratings score: 85, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars