Relationship Anarchy Reading List (21 books)

These books have informed my understanding of the history, sociology, and science of romantic and platonic love—and how the relationship anarchy paradigm can bring resilience and conscious creation into all of our relationships.

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1	Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern 4.35 avg rating — 16,235 ratings score: 290, and 3 people voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
2	Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski (Goodreads Author) 4.28 avg rating — 86,589 ratings score: 187, and 2 people voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
3	Radical Belonging: How to Survive + Thrive in an Unjust World by Lindo Bacon 4.07 avg rating — 467 ratings score: 185, and 2 people voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
4	Sex from Scratch: Making Your Own Relationship Rules by Sarah Mirk (Goodreads Author) 3.76 avg rating — 655 ratings score: 184, and 2 people voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
5	What Love Is: And What It Could Be by Carrie Jenkins (Goodreads Author) 3.57 avg rating — 677 ratings score: 100, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
5	Relationship Anarchy: Occupy Intimacy! by Juan-Carlos Pérez-Cortés (Goodreads Author) 4.31 avg rating — 433 ratings score: 100, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
5	You Don't Have to Do It Alone: The Power of Friendship by Mark Nepo 3.89 avg rating — 47 ratings score: 100, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
8	Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships by Meg-John Barker 4.41 avg rating — 287 ratings score: 99, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
8	Radical Intimacy by Sophie K. Rosa 4.13 avg rating — 1,999 ratings score: 99, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
10	Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic by Esther Perel 4.17 avg rating — 49,762 ratings score: 98, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
10	Abolish the Family: A Manifesto for Care and Liberation by Sophie Lewis 3.68 avg rating — 1,754 ratings score: 98, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
12	Marriage, a History: From Obedience to Intimacy or How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz (Goodreads Author) 3.98 avg rating — 3,718 ratings score: 97, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
13	The Psychology of Sex by Meg John Barker 3.89 avg rating — 185 ratings score: 96, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
14	Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark A. Michaels (Goodreads Author) 3.69 avg rating — 851 ratings score: 95, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
15	The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel 4.36 avg rating — 23,636 ratings score: 94, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
16	Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans by Michaeleen Doucleff 4.14 avg rating — 31,860 ratings score: 92, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
17	The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker 3.95 avg rating — 28,255 ratings score: 89, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
18	The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival by Kathy Labriola 3.93 avg rating — 368 ratings score: 88, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
19	Life Is Friends: A Complete Guide to the Lost Art of Connecting in Person by Jeanne Martinet (Goodreads Author) 3.30 avg rating — 130 ratings score: 87, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
20	Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed (Goodreads Author) 4.15 avg rating — 141,897 ratings score: 86, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars
21	Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close by Aminatou Sow (Goodreads Author) 3.74 avg rating — 25,112 ratings score: 85, and 1 person voted	Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Rate this book Clear rating 1 of 5 stars 2 of 5 stars 3 of 5 stars 4 of 5 stars 5 of 5 stars