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#1

“In a healthy relationship, vulnerability is wonderful. It leads to increased intimacy and closer bonds. When a healthy person realizes that he or she hurt you, they feel remorse and they make amends. It’s safe to be honest. In an abusive system, vulnerability is dangerous. It’s considered a weakness, which acts as an invitation for more mistreatment. Abusive people feel a surge of power when they discover a weakness. They exploit it, using it to gain more power. Crying or complaining confirms that they’ve poked you in the right spot.”
― Christina Enevoldsen, The Rescued Soul: The Writing Journey for the Healing of Incest and Family Betrayal

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abusive-relationships, domestic-violence, emotional-abuse, healthy-relationships, intimacy, power, survivors, vulnerability, vulnerability-intimacy, weakness

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#2

“only someone who is ready for everything, who doesn't exclude any experience, even the most incomprehensible, will live the relationship with another person as something alive and will himself sound the depths of his own being.”
― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

tags: experience, openness, relationships

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#3

“It is in the interests of both sexes to hear the other sex's experience of powerlessness.”
― Warren Farrell

tags: feminism, psychology

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#4

“When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever bonds rather than to maintain commitment.
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― bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

tags: relationships

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#5

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”
― David Richo

tags: healing, inspiration, pain, psychology, relationships, therapy

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#6

“When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.”
― Deepak Chopra

tags: relationships, struggle, weaknesses

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#7

“Once you learn to be happy, you won’t tolerate being around people who make you feel anything less.”
― Germany Kent, The Hope Handbook for Survivors: The Seach for Personal Growth

tags: abusive-relationships, happiness, hopeful-and-encouraging

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#8

“I want to be around people that do things. I don’t want to be around people anymore that judge or talk about what people do. I want to be around people that dream and support and do things.”
― Amy Poehler

tags: dreams, friends, judgement, people, relationships, support

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#9

“Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman–Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass: Embracing Singleness with Confidence

tags: being-single, dating, finding-love, living-life-to-the-fullest, living-your-best-life, love, not-settling, positive-thinking, praying-for-love, relationships, single, single-life, single-woman, singleness, the-single-woman

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#10

“In therapy the individual learns to recognize and express his feelings as his own feelings, not as a fact about another person.”
― Carl R. Rogers

tags: psychotherapy

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#11

“You can have a pet zebra and put that zebra into a small cage every day and tell the zebra that you love it, but no matter how you and the zebra love each other, the fact remains, that the zebra should be let out of that cage and should belong to someone who can treat it better, the way it should be treated, someone who can make it happy.”
― C. JoyBell C.

tags: abuse, abusive-relationships, relationship-quotes, relationships, wisdom-quotes, wrong-relationships

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#12

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don't.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

tags: change, control, empowerment, inspirational, letting-go, life, motivational

2707 likes

#13

“The healthy man does not torture others - generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers.
Carl Jung
Swiss psychologist (1875 - 1961)”
― C.G. Jung

tags: evil, sadism

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#14

“The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition to impel man to unfold his powers. ”
― Erich Fromm

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#15

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

tags: authenticity, belonging, self-acceptance

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#16

“Indeed, freedom and the capacity for disobedience are inseparable; hence any social, political, and religious system which proclaims freedom, yet stamps out disobedience, cannot speak the truth.”
― Erich Fromm, On Disobedience: Why Freedom Means Saying No to Power

tags: disobedience, freedom

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#17

“нетерпимость по отношению к другим людям опережает строгость по отношению к себе. Я узнает, что достойно порицания, но защищается от неприятной самокритики при помощи этого защитного механизма. Сильное негодование по поводу чужих неправильных поступков - предшествование и замещение чувства вины по отношению к самому себе. Негодование Я возрастает автоматически, когда близится восприятие его собственной вины.”
― Anna Freud, Ego and the Mechanisms of Defense

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#18

“Don't think of introversion as something that needs to be cured.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

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#19

“Sensation tell us a thing is.
Thinking tell us what it is this thing is.
Feeling tells us what this thing is to us.”
― Carl Gustav Jung

tags: psychology

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#20

“A million years ago, some early human looked at a cave and said, “I think I’ll go check it out.” His friend was a little more anxious and grunted back, “Not sure that’s such a good idea.” And guess what? The first guy got eaten by a bear and the second guy is your ancestor.”
― Alex Korb, The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time

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#21

“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
― John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

tags: affection, alone, beauty, camaraderie, caring, caring-for-others, closeness, companionship, compassion, connectedness, connection, disconnection, empathy, estrangement, fellowship, friendship, friendship-quotes, hug, hugs, intimacy, isolation, kindness, kindred-spirits, loneliness, love, love-at-first-sight, love-quotes, lovers, loving, loving-someone, mirror, mutuality, partnership, reciprocal, reciprocity, reflected-in-you, relationship, relationship-quotes, relationships, romance, self-belief, self-esteem, self-hatred, self-realization, self-worth, self-worthiness, soul-mate, soulmates, togetherness, touch, twin-flames

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#22

“When examining evidence relevant to a given belief, people are inclined to see what they expect to see, and conclude what they expect to conclude. Information that is consistent with our pre-existing beliefs is often accepted at face value, whereas evidence that contradicts them is critically scrutinized and discounted. Our beliefs may thus be less responsive than they should to the implications of new information”
― Thomas Gilovich, How We Know What Isn't So: The Fallibility of Human Reason in Everyday Life

tags: fallacy, human-behavior, logic, mind, psychology

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#23

“Improving your ability to stay present, a practice known as “mindfulness,” helps enhance these activations and leads to long-term improvements in anxiety and worrying.”
― Alex Korb, The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time

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#24

“A coward talks to everyone but YOU.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: anxiety, cheats, competition, coward, defaming, evil-women, fake-christians, false-information, fear, games, gossips, heartless, insecure-women, jealous-women, jealousy, liars, low-self-esteem, paranoid-men, rumors, sisterinlaws, sisters, slander, stalkers, weak

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#25

“What we believe is heavily influenced by what we think others believe”
― Thomas Gilovich, How We Know What Isn't So: The Fallibility of Human Reason in Everyday Life

tags: human-behavior, logic, mind, psychology

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#26

“From every wound there is a scar, and every scar tells a story. A story that says, "I survived".”
― Fr. Craig Scott

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#27

“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.”
― C. JoyBell C.

tags: change, growth, inspirational, inspirational-attitude, inspirational-life, inspirational-quotes, life-and-living, life-lessons

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#28

“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn't have the time to sit around and talk about you. What's important to me is not others' opinions of me, but what's important to me is my opinion of myself.”
― C. JoyBell C.

tags: defiant, freedom, inspirational, inspirational-attitude, inspirational-quotes, inspiring, life-and-living, self-belief, self-love, self-worth, society

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#29

“When a person feels powerless in regard to controlling his life, he can defend against the discomfort of such an experience by asserting control over someone else.”
― A. Nicholas Groth, Men Who Rape: The Psychology of the Offender

tags: feminism, psychology

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#30

“If there is one thing developmental psychologists have learned over the years, it is that parents don’t have to be brilliant psychologists to succeed. They don’t have to be supremely gifted teachers. Most of the stuff parents do with flashcards and special drills and tutorials to hone their kids into perfect achievement machines don’t have any effect at all. Instead, parents just have to be good enough. They have to provide their kids with stable and predictable rhythms. They need to be able to fall in tune with their kids’ needs, combining warmth and discipline. They need to establish the secure emotional bonds that kids can fall back upon in the face of stress. They need to be there to provide living examples of how to cope with the problems of the world so that their children can develop unconscious models in their heads.”
― David Brooks, The Social Animal: The Hidden Sources of Love, Character, and Achievement

tags: child-development, parenting, psychology

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