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#1

“Laws of silence don't work....
When something is festering in your memory or your imagination, laws of silence don't work, it's just like shutting a door and locking it on a house on fire in hope of forgetting that the house is burning. But not facing a fire doesn't put it out. Silence about a thing just magnifies it. It grows and festers in silence, becomes malignant....”
― Tennessee Williams, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof

tags: avoidance, festering, imagination, memory, silence

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#2

“I’m not brave any more darling. I’m all broken. They’ve broken me.”
― Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms

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#3

“I wondered why humans were even given the gift of speech at all. We no longer needed it; we’ve forgotten to talk about anything. We only waste it.”
― Rasmenia Massoud, Human Detritus

tags: communication, humans, speech, talk

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#4

“It's an odd thing but when you tell someone the true facts of a mythical tale they are indignant not with the teller but with you. They don't want to have their ideas upset. It rouses some vague uneasiness in them, I think, and they resent it. So they reject it and refuse to think about it. If they were merely indifferent it would be natural and understandable. But it is much stronger than that, much more positive. They are annoyed.

Very odd, isn't it.”
― Josephine Tey, The Daughter of Time

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#5

“The universe runs on the principle that one who can exert the most evil on other creatures runs the show.”
― Bangambiki Habyarimana, Pearls Of Eternity

tags: ambition, ambition-and-attitude, ambition-life-ambitions, ambition-quote, ambition-quotes, ambitions, bangambiki, barbarity, cruel, cruel-people, cruel-world, cruelties, cruelty, devil, devil-quotes, dictatorship, enormity, evil, evil-man, evil-men, evil-people, evil-quotes, evil-spirit, evil-thoughts, evil-words, evilness, evils, good, good-and-evil, good-and-evil-quote, good-and-evil-quotes, good-deeds, good-deeds-quotes, good-vs-evil, inhumanity, iniquitious, iniquity, lies-politics, love-of-power, lust-for-power, macchiavelli, machiavellian, misuse-of-power, political, political-ambition, political-ambition-quotes, political-correctness, political-philosophy, politicians, politics, power, power-addiction, survival-instinct, survival-is-the-name-of-the-game, survival-of-the-fittest, survival-quotes, survival-story, survivalism, survivalist, survive, surviving-life, survivor, the-great-pearl-of-wisdom, universe, universe-quotations, universe-quote, universe-quotes, wicked, wicked-intensions, wicked-people, wickedness

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#6

“But when you disarm them, you at once offend them by showing that you distrust them, either for cowardice or for want of loyalty, and either of these opinions breeds hatred against you.”
― Niccolò Machiavelli, The Prince

tags: machiavellian, war

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#7

“All conflict can be traced back to someone’s feelings getting hurt, don’t you think?”
― Liane Moriarty, Big Little Lies

tags: conflict, hurt-feelings

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#8

“It hurt to see my son turning into a stranger, a loner on a highway to self-destruction”
― Gianni Holmes, Easy Does It Twice

tags: hurt-feelings, kids, painful

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#9

“Our society tends to regard as a sickness any mode of thought or behavior that is inconvenient for the system and this is plausible because when an individual doesn't fit into the system it causes pain to the individual as well as problems for the system. Thus the manipulation of an individual to adjust him to the system is seen as a cure for a sickness and therefore as good.”
― Theodore Kaczynski

tags: abuse-of-power, anti-psychiatrity, anti-stigma, discrimination, judged, label, labeling, labeling-someone, labelling, mental-disorder, mental-health, mental-health-stigma, mental-health-system, mental-illness, perspective, sanity, sickness, society

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#10

“Everyday I realize more and more that if the world is going to change at all, it is going to change through the healing of the victims. Abusers run the show, they insist on and instigate cover ups, they misuse their power, teach things falsely out of the desire to control but as the victims heal and get stronger, the abusers will not be able to hide behind the fog that they create.”
― Darlene Ouimet

tags: abusers, change-the-world, cover-ups, disinformation, false-teachers, false-teaching, healing, misuse-of-power, smoke-and-mirrors, victims-of-abuse

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#11

“People may not realize the damage that they are doing by placing the blame on the victim ~ but that doesn't lessen the damage that they cause by doing it.”
― Darlene Ouimet

tags: abuse-survivors, blame, blame-the-victim, healing-insights, rape, rape-survivor, sexual-abuse, sexual-assault, survivors, survivors-of-abuse, victim-blaming

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#12

“Because of the consequences of trying to be heard as a child, many adults are unable to take the risk of telling as adults. The fear of the consequences is almost debilitating. The abusers and controllers know that; they rely on it.”
― Darlene Ouimet, Emerging from Broken: The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing

tags: adulthood, being-heard, child-abuse, consequences, fear, growing-up, overcoming-abuse, telling

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#13

“I let go of false hope. I let go of the hope that they would transform in favour of working on my own transformation. I let go of the hope that they would HEAR me. I let go of the hope that they would SEE me. Instead of my hope being in THEM, I listened to me. I heard me, I saw me, I validated my own pain and I began to emerge from the broken life I had been living.”
― Darlene Ouimet

tags: abuse, abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, hope, inspiration, love

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#14

“It occurred to me then that the man might not be mad; I found this far more disquieting than the alternative.”
― Neil Gaiman, Murder Mysteries

tags: madness, murder-mysteries, neil-gaiman, smoke-and-mirrors

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#15

“It came down to that flexibility of a person’s mind. An ability to withstand horrors and snap back, like a fresh elastic band. A flinty mind shattered. In this way, he was glad not to be an adult. A grown-up’s mind—even one belonging to a decent man like Scoutmaster Tim—lacked that elasticity. The world had been robbed of all its mysteries, and with those mysteries went the horror. Adults didn’t believe in old wives’ tales. You didn’t see adults stepping over sidewalk cracks out of the fear that they might somehow, some way, break their mothers’ backs. They didn’t wish on stars: not with the squinty-eyed fierceness of kids, anyway. You’ll never find an adult who believes that saying “Bloody Mary” three times in front of a mirror in a dark room will summon a dark, blood-hungry entity. Adults were scared of different things: their jobs, their mortgages, whether they hung out with the “right people,” whether they would die unloved. These were pallid compared to the fears of a child—leering clowns under the bed and slimy monsters capering beyond the basement’s light and faceless sucking horrors from beyond the stars. There’s no 12-step or self-help group for dealing with those fears. Or maybe there is: you just grow up. And when you do, you surrender the nimbleness of mind required to believe in such things—but also to cope with them. And so when adults find themselves in a situation where that nimbleness is needed . . . well, they can’t summon it. So they fall to pieces: go insane, panic, suffer heart attacks and aneurysms brought on by fright. Why? They simply don’t believe it could be happening. That’s what’s different about kids: they believe everything can happen, and fully expect it to.”
― Nick Cutter, The Troop

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#16

“Don't judge yourself by what others did to you.”
― C. Kennedy, Ómorphi

tags: abuse, abuse-recovery, abuse-sexual-abuse, abuse-survivors, gay-romance, gay-ya, glbtq, glbtq-romance, lgbtq

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#17

“Survivors of abuse show us the strength of their personal spirit every time they smile.”
― Jeanne McElvaney, Healing Insights: Effects of Abuse for Adults Abused as Children

tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, childhood-abuse, childhood-sexual-abuse, effects-of-child-abuse, harrietta-s-happenstance, healing-abuse, healing-insights, jeanne-mcelvaney, spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story, survivors-of-abuse

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#18

“When a man starts my program, he often says, “I am here because I lose control of myself sometimes. I need to get a better grip.” I always correct him: "Your problem is not that you lose control of yourself, it’s that you take control of your partner. In order to change, you don’t need to gain control over yourself, you need to let go of control of her.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

tags: abuse-recovery, abused-women, abusive-men, abusive-partners, abusive-relationship, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence

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#19

“Some people stand and move as if they have no right to the space they occupy. They wonder why others often fail to treat them with respect--not realizing that they have signalled others that it is not necessary to treat them with respect.”
― Nathaniel Branden, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

tags: abuse-recovery, people-pleaser, psychology, self-esteem, victimhood

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#20

“You can recognize survivors by their creativity. In soulful, insightful, gentle, and nurturing creations, they often express the inner beauty they brought out of childhood storms.”
― Jeanne McElvaney, Childhood Abuse: Tips to Change Child Abuse Effects

tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, childhood-abuse, childhood-sexual-abuse, effects-of-child-abuse, harrietta-s-happenstance, healing-abuse, healing-insights, jeanne-mcelvaney, spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story, survivors-of-abuse

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#21

“It is strange... the reasons one feels he doesn't deserve things.”
― C. Kennedy, Slaying Isidore's Dragons

tags: abuse, abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, heartache, heartbreak, hope, lgbt, lgbtq, lgbtqia, psychology, psychology-of-self, romance, triumph

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#22

“In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abuser, abusers, attack-on-character, attacking-people, backlash, break-the-silence, child-sexual-abuse, child-sexual-abuse-survivor, crazy, credibility, denial, false-memories, false-memory-myth, false-memory-syndrome-campaign, healing-from-abuse, hysterical, incest, insane, just-tell, lack-of-accountability, lying, perpetrator, perpetrators, pschological-abuse, rape-culture, rape-myths, rape-survivor, secrecy, sexual-abuse, sexual-assault, sexual-violence, survivor, survivors, unstable, victimized, victimizing

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#23

“To those who abuse: the sin is yours, the crime is yours, and the shame is yours. To those who protect the perpetrators: blaming the victims only masks the evil within, making you as guilty as those who abuse. Stand up for the innocent or go down with the rest.”
― Flora Jessop, Church of Lies

tags: abuse, abusers, innocent, inspirational, lies, perpetrators, poetry, survivors, victims

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#24

“Violators cannot live with the truth: survivors cannot live without it. There are those who still, once again, are poised to invalidate and deny us. If we don't assert our truth, it may again be relegated to fantasy. But the truth won't go away. It will keep surfacing until it is recognized. Truth will outlast any campaigns mounted against it, no matter how mighty, clever, or long. It is invincible. It's only a matter of which generation is willing to face it and, in so doing, protect future generations from ritual abuse.”
― Chrystine Oksana, Safe Passage to Healing: A Guide for Survivors of Ritual Abuse

tags: abusers, child-abuse, child-protection, child-sexual-abuse-lies, deny, fantasy, invalidate, invalidation, media-campaign, media-distortions, perpetrators, propaganda, rape, ritual-abuse, sexual-abuse, society-denial, survivors, truth-violators, victims

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#25

“In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. Secrecy and silence are the perpetrator’s first line of defense. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure that no one listens. To this end, he marshals an impressive array of arguments, from the most blatant denial to the most sophisticated and elegant rationalization. After every atrocity one can expect to hear the same predictable apologies: it never happened; the victim lies; the victim exaggerates; the victim brought it upon herself; and in any case it is time to forget the past and move on. The more powerful the perpetrator, the greater is his prerogative to name and define reality, and the more completely his arguments prevail.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse, abuse-of-power, abuse-survivors, abusers, allegations, attacking, attacking-people, backlash, child-abuse, credibility, criminals, false-memory-syndrome-myth, lack-of-accountability, perpetrators, power, rape, rapists, recovered-memories, repressed-memories, secrecy, sexual-abuse, silence, silencing-children, silencing-dissent, society-denial, survivor-of-abuse, survivors, survivors-of-abuse, trauma-memories

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#26

“The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: denial, post-traumatic-stress-disorder, psychotherapy, ptsd, taboo, trauma, truth

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#27

“The ORDINARY RESPONSE TO ATROCITIES is to banish them from consciousness. Certain violations of the social compact are too terrible to utter aloud: this is the meaning of the word unspeakable.

Atrocities, however, refuse to be buried. Equally as powerful as the desire to deny atrocities is the conviction that denial does not work. Folk wisdom is filled with ghosts who refuse to rest in their graves until their stories are told. Murder will out. Remembering and telling the truth about terrible events are prerequisites both for the restoration of the social order and for the healing of individual victims.

The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma. People who have survived atrocities often tell their stories in a highly emotional, contradictory, and fragmented manner that undermines their credibility and thereby serves the twin imperatives of truth-telling and secrecy. When the truth is finally recognized, survivors can begin their recovery. But far too often secrecy prevails, and the story of the traumatic event surfaces not as a verbal narrative but as a symptom.

The psychological distress symptoms of traumatized people simultaneously call attention to the existence of an unspeakable secret and deflect attention from it. This is most apparent in the way traumatized people alternate between feeling numb and reliving the event. The dialectic of trauma gives rise to complicated, sometimes uncanny alterations of consciousness, which George Orwell, one of the committed truth-tellers of our century, called "doublethink," and which mental health professionals, searching for calm, precise language, call "dissociation." It results in protean, dramatic, and often bizarre symptoms of hysteria which Freud recognized a century ago as disguised communications about sexual abuse in childhood. . . .”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse, atrocities, consciousness, crime, denial, dissociation, dissociative, freud, ghosts, graves, healing, horrible, humanity, memory, mind, murder, posttraumatic-stress-disorder, power, psychological-trauma, psychology, ptsd, rape, recovered-memory, recovery, repressed-memory, restoration, sigmund-freud, society, society-denial, survivors, trauma, trauma-therapy, truth, unspeakable, victims, violations, wisdom

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#28

“Over time as most people fail the survivor's exacting test of trustworthiness, she tends to withdraw from relationships. The isolation of the survivor thus persists even after she is free.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse, isolation, relationships, survivor, trauma, traumatization, traumatized, trust

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#29

“Traumatic events destroy the sustaining bonds between individual and community. Those who have survived learn that their sense of self, of worth, of humanity, depends upon a feeling of connection with others. The solidarity of a group provides the strongest protection against terror and despair, and the strongest antidote to traumatic experience. Trauma isolates; the group re-creates a sense of belonging. Trauma shames and stigmatizes; the group bears witness and affirms. Trauma degrades the victim; the group exalts her. Trauma dehumanizes the victim; the group restores her humanity.
Repeatedly in the testimony of survivors there comes a moment when a sense of connection is restored by another person’s unaffected display of generosity. Something in herself that the victim believes to be irretrievably destroyed---faith, decency, courage---is reawakened by an example of common altruism. Mirrored in the actions of others, the survivor recognizes and reclaims a lost part of herself. At that moment, the survivor begins to rejoin the human commonality...”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, affection, altruism, belonging, bond, bonding, bonds, community, connection, connection-with-people, courage, decency, dehumanisation, dehumanization, dehumanize, dehumanized, faith, feeling-human, generosity, healing, healing-abuse, healing-insights, humanity, inhuman, inhumane, inhumane-treatment, inhumanity, isolated, loss-of-self, loss-of-social-interaction, no-longer-human, outcast, ptsd, reclaiming-dignity, reclaiming-your-life, recovery, recovery-from-abuse, rejected, society, survivor, survivors, traumatic-experiences, traumatized, victim, victimized

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#30

“In situations of captivity the perpetrator becomes the most powerful person in the life of the victim, and the psychology of the victim is shaped by the actions and beliefs of the perpetrator.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abuser, belie, belief-system, captivity, complex-ptsd, core-beliefs, domestic-violence, healing, healing-from-abuse, healing-insights, intimate-partner-violence, perpetrator, powerless, powerlessness, prisoner, ptsd, recovery-from-abuse, stockholm-syndrome, survivors, trauma, traumatic-stress, victim

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