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  • #1
    Arthur Golden
    “After all, when a stone is dropped into a pond, the water continues quivering even after the stone has sunk to the bottom.”
    Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha

  • #2
    Lundy Bancroft
    “When a man starts my program, he often says, “I am here because I lose control of myself sometimes. I need to get a better grip.” I always correct him: "Your problem is not that you lose control of yourself, it’s that you take control of your partner. In order to change, you don’t need to gain control over yourself, you need to let go of control of her.”
    Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

  • #3
    Federico García Lorca
    “To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves.”
    Federico García Lorca, Blood Wedding and Yerma

  • #4
    “One, remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Two, never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it. Three, if you are lucky enough to find love, remember it is there and don't throw it away.”
    Stephen Hawking

  • #5
    William Shakespeare
    “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
    William Shakespear, Hamlet

  • #6
    Santosh Kalwar
    “We are addicted to our thoughts. We cannot change anything if we cannot change our thinking.”
    Santosh Kalwar, Quote Me Everyday

  • #7
    Clive James
    “Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.”
    Clive James

  • #8
    Chuck Palahniuk
    “The one you love and the one who loves you are never, ever the same person.”
    Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters

  • #9
    Shannon L. Alder
    “Dignity
    /ˈdignitē/ noun

    1. The moment you realize that the person you cared for has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you, but a headache.

    2. The moment you realize God had greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or sad Pinterest quotes.

    3. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others because it undermines your worth, education and your parent’s wisdom.

    4. The moment you live your dreams, not because of what it will prove or get you, but because that is all you want to do. People’s opinions don’t matter.

    5. The moment you realize that no one is your enemy, except yourself.

    6. The moment you realize that you can have everything you want in life. However, it takes timing, the right heart, the right actions, the right passion and a willingness to risk it all. If it is not yours, it is because you really didn’t want it, need it or God prevented it.

    7. The moment you realize the ghost of your ancestors stood between you and the person you loved. They really don't want you mucking up the family line with someone that acts anything less than honorable.

    8. The moment you realize that happiness was never about getting a person. They are only a helpmate towards achieving your life mission.

    9. The moment you believe that love is not about losing or winning. It is just a few moments in time, followed by an eternity of situations to grow from.

    10. The moment you realize that you were always the right person. Only ignorant people walk away from greatness.”
    Shannon L. Alder

  • #10
    Keith Ablow
    “But that's the hardest part of healing.'
    What?'
    Realizing there's no one to hate.”
    Keith Ablow, Denial

  • #11
    “As Louis Cozolino Ph. D., observes, a consistent theme of adult psychotherapy clients is that they had parents who were not curious about who they were but, instead, told them who they should be. What Cozolino explains, is that the child creates a "persona" for her parents but doesn't learn to know herself. What happens is that "the authentic self"--the part of us open to feelings, experinces, and intimicy--remains underdeveloped.”
    Peg Streep, Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt – An Eye-Opening Resource on the Cultural Taboo of Maternal Behavior and Psychological Effects

  • #12
    “There were nights when I left the sessions physically and emotionally drained after hearing the anguish pour out like blood from a gaping wound. Don’t let anyone ever tell you different – psychotherapy is one of the most taxing endeavors known to mankind; I’ve done all sorts of work, from picking carrots in the scorching sun to sitting on national committees in paneled board rooms, and there’s nothing that compares to confronting human misery hour after hour and bearing the responsibility for easing that misery using only one’s mind and mouth. At its best it’s tremendously uplifting as you watch the patient open up, breathe, let go of the pain. At its worst is like surfing in a cesspool struggling for balance while being slapped with wave after putrid wave.”
    Jonathan Kellerman, When the Bough Breaks

  • #14
    Chuck Palahniuk
    “All God does is watch us and kill us when we get boring. We must never, ever be boring.”
    Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters

  • #15
    Mahatma Gandhi
    “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
    Mahatma Gandhi

  • #16
    Tom Bodett
    “They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.”
    Tom Bodett

  • #17
    Jonathan Safran Foer
    “You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.”
    Jonathan Safran Foer

  • #18
    Chuck Palahniuk
    “The only way to find true happiness is to risk being completely cut open.”
    Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters

  • #19
    Sylvia Plath
    “I felt my lungs inflate with the onrush of scenery—air, mountains, trees, people. I thought, "This is what it is to be happy.”
    Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

  • #20
    Lewis Carroll
    “I wonder if the snow loves the trees and fields, that it kisses them so gently? And then it covers them up snug, you know, with a white quilt; and perhaps it says, "Go to sleep, darlings, till the summer comes again.”
    Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland / Through the Looking-Glass

  • #21
    Ralph Waldo Emerson
    “Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.”
    Ralph Waldo Emerson

  • #22
    Edgar Allan Poe
    “We loved with a love that was more than love.”
    Edgar Allen Poe

  • #23
    “Beware of those who criticize you when you deserve some praise for an achievement, for it is they who secretly desire to be worshiped.”
    Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem

  • #24
    Alfred Adler
    “This quote begins here. A simple rule in dealing with those who are hard to get along with is to remember that this person is striving to assert his superiority; and you must deal with him from that point of view. This quote ends here.”
    Alfred Adler, Social Interest: Adler's Key to the Meaning of Life
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  • #25
    Alfred Adler
    “He used to say to his melancholia patients:
    "You can be cured in fourteen days if you follow this prescription.Try to think every day how you can please someone.”
    Alfred Adler

  • #26
    Alfred Adler
    “a woman who contributes to the life of mankind by the occupation of motherhood is taking as high a place in the division of human labor as anyone else could take. If she is interested in the lives of her children and is paving the way for them to become fellow men, if she is spreading their interests and training them to cooperate, her work is so valuable that it can never be rightly rewarded. In our own culture the work of a mother is undervalued and often regarded as a not very attractive or estimable occupation. It is paid only indirectly and a woman who makes it her main occupation is generally placed in a position of economic dependence. The success of the family, however, rests equally upon the work of the mother and the work of the father. Whether the mother keeps house or works independently, her work as a mother does not play a lower role than the work of her husband.”
    Alfred Adler, WHAT LIFE COULD MEAN TO YOU

  • #27
    Bessel van der Kolk
    “Unlike other forms of psychological disorders, the core issue in trauma is reality.”
    Bessel A. van der Kolk, Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body, and Society

  • #28
    Jessica Stern
    “Some people's lives seem to flow in a narrative; mine had many stops and starts. That's what trauma does. It interrupts the plot. You can't process it because it doesn't fit with what came before or what comes afterwards.”
    Jessica Stern

  • #29
    Bessel van der Kolk
    “BEFRIENDING THE BODY

    Trauma victims cannot recover until they become familiar with and befriend the sensations in their bodies. Being frightened means that you live in a body that is always on guard. Angry people live in angry bodies. The bodies of child-abuse victims are tense and defensive until they find a way to relax and feel safe. In order to change, people need to become aware of their sensations and the way that their bodies interact with the world around them. Physical self-awareness is the first step in releasing the tyranny of the past.

    In my practice I begin the process by helping my patients to first notice and then describe the feelings in their bodies—not emotions such as anger or anxiety or fear but the physical sensations beneath the emotions: pressure, heat, muscular tension, tingling, caving in, feeling hollow, and so on. I also work on identifying the sensations associated with relaxation or pleasure. I help them become aware of their breath, their gestures and movements.

    All too often, however, drugs such as Abilify, Zyprexa, and Seroquel, are prescribed instead of teaching people the skills to deal with such distressing physical reactions. Of course, medications only blunt sensations and do nothing to resolve them or transform them from toxic agents into allies.

    The mind needs to be reeducated to feel physical sensations, and the body needs to be helped to tolerate and enjoy the comforts of touch. Individuals who lack emotional awareness are able, with practice, to connect their physical sensations to psychological events. Then they can slowly reconnect with themselves.”
    Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

  • #30
    Bessel van der Kolk
    “The brain-disease model overlooks four fundamental truths: (1) our capacity to destroy one another is matched by our capacity to heal one another. Restoring relationships and community is central to restoring well-being; (2) language gives us the power to change ourselves and others by communicating our experiences, helping us to define what we know, and finding a common sense of meaning; (3) we have the ability to regulate our own physiology, including some of the so-called involuntary functions of the body and brain, through such basic activities as breathing, moving, and touching; and (4) we can change social conditions to create environments in which children and adults can feel safe and where they can thrive.

    When we ignore these quintessential dimensions of humanity, we deprive people of ways to heal from trauma and restore their autonomy. Being a patient, rather than a participant in one’s healing process, separates suffering people from their community and alienates them from an inner sense of self.”
    Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

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