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#1

“Pain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is avoidable.”
― R.D. Laing

tags: avoidance, healing, pain, painful, recovery

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#2

“Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal.”
― Vironika Tugaleva

tags: avoidance, emotional-pain, emotions, healing, healing-the-past, pain, vulnerability

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#3

“She's terrified that all these sensations and images are coming out of her — but I think she's even more terrified to find out why." Carla's description was typical of survivors of chronic childhood abuse. Almost always, they deny or minimize the abusive memories. They have to: it's too painful to believe that their parents would do such a thing.”
― David L. Calof

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abusive-childhood, abusive-parents, avoidance, child-abuse, child-rape, childhood-abuse, defense-mechanism, denial, denial-of-abuse, denial-of-child-abuse, denial-of-incest, dissociated-amnesia, dissociative-amnesia, fear-of-truth, flashback, flashbacks, healing, healing-abuse, healing-from-abuse, healing-insights, incest, intrusive, minimization, minimizing, minimizing-issues, parental-abuse, post-traumatic-stress-disorder, posttraumatic-stress-disorder, psychological-defence, ptsd, reliving-the-past, sadistic-abuse, subconscious, subconscious-mind, survivors, trauma-memories, traumatic-experiences, traumatic-memories, traumatized

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#4

“Bravery is the choice to show up and listen to another person, be it a loved one or perceived foe, even when it is uncomfortable, painful, or the last thing you want to do.”
― Alaric Hutchinson

tags: acceptance, accountability, avoidance, bravery, compassion, conflict-resolution, consciousness, courage, giving, growth, inner-peace, inspirational, listening, love, pain, peace, peace-of-mind, peace-on-earth, present-moment, psychology, relationships, showing-up, spiritual, uncomfortable, wisdom, words-of-wisdom, words-to-live-by, zen

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#5

“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day. (p.28)”
― Antonio R. Damasio, The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness

tags: avoidance, body, denial, hidden, life, mind, screen, self-preservation, self-protection, veil

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#6

“We numb our minds and heart so one need not be broken and the other need not be bothered.”
― Peggy Haymes

tags: avoidance, compassion, confession, denial, hearts, life, minds, numbing

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#7

“The choice to avoid risk is the choice to avoid living, and to avoid living is one of the greatest risk of all.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

tags: avoid, avoidance, avoidant, existence, fear, fearful, frightened, life, living, opportunities, possibilities, quality-of-life, retreat, risk, risky

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#8

“Fight for change? Thirst for difference?
Start talking what men avoid talking about.”
― Toba Beta, Master of Stupidity

tags: avoidance, change, difference, fight, start-talking, taboo, thirsty

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#9

“Living with life is very hard. Mostly we do our best to stifle life--to be tame or to be wanton. To be tranquillised or raging. Extremes have the same effect; they insulate us from the intensity of life.

And extremes--whether of dullness or fury--successfully prevent feeling. I know our feelings can be so unbearable that we employ ingenious strategies--unconscious strategies--to keep those feelings away. We do a feelings-swap, where we avoid feeling sad or lonely or afraid or inadequate, and feel angry instead. It can work the other way, too--sometimes you do need to feel angry, not inadequate; sometimes you do need to feel love and acceptance, and not the tragic drama of your life.

It takes courage to feel the feeling--and not trade it on the feelings-exchange, or even transfer it altogether to another person. You know how in couples one person is always doing all the weeping or the raging while the other one seems so calm and reasonable?

I understood that feelings were difficult for me although I was overwhelmed by them.”
― Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

tags: anger, avoidance, extremes, feelings, inadequate, life, living-life, suppression

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#10

“What is sitting behind your judgments? What fears are you coddling?”
― Akiroq Brost

tags: avoidance, deflection, fears, introspection, judgments, reflection

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#11

“Rumination in grief is a form of avoidance.

We know - this is completely counterintuitive. As we talked about [previously], avoidance is when you work hard not to think about something. How could rumination possibly be a form of avoidance? Margaret Stroebe, Henk Schut, Maarten Eisma, and an array of their colleagues first suggested this 'rumination as avoidance' hypothesis and then did research to investigate it. There is a lot to say on this topic, but here's what you need to know: studies have found that grieving people will often ruminate on very specific aspects of their loss. This keeps their brains so busy with those very focused events or details that they don't have to face the even more difficult and painful aspects of their grief.”
― Eleanor Haley, What's Your Grief?: Lists to Help You Through Any Loss

tags: avoidance, bereavement, grief, loss, ptsd, rumination, trauma

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#12

“Do not confuse healthy detachment with avoidance. In my opinion, the difference between the two are acceptance and acknowledgement.”
― Robin S. Baker

tags: acceptance, acknowledgement, avoidance, detachment, guidance, wisdom

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#13

“All goals or motivations fit within two categories: approach or avoid.

For instance, going to work because you don’t want to lose your house is an avoidance-driven goal. Going to work to get a promotion is more approach- motivated.

Your reason or goal, whether positive or negative, approach or avoidance motivated, is the driver of your thoughts, energy, and actions.

In all instances, humans act as we do based on the future we see for ourselves. That may be a future we’re trying to avoid, or a future we’re trying to create.”
― Benjamin P. Hardy, Be Your Future Self Now: The Science of Intentional Transformation

tags: approach, avoid, avoidance, goals, motivation, pull, push, understanding-others, understanding-yourself

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#14

“Surviving something impossibly hard — supported by meaningful connection and our own inner strength — makes us more alive. More purpose-driven, more prioritized, more focused, more aware, more connected. More human. By bringing loss out of the shadows, we can change our lives for the better.”
― Sue Deagle

tags: grief, grief-and-healing, grief-and-loss, grief-inspirational, human-experience, inspirational, loss

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#15

“The role of a writer is not to say what we can all say, but what we are unable to say.”
― Anais Nin

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#16

“Do not seek the because - in love there is no because, no reason, no explanation, no solutions.”
― Anaïs Nin, HENRY AND JUNE

tags: inspirational, understanding

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#17

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
― Anais Nin

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