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#1

“A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own even if she never wants
to or needs to...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her
dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
a youth she's content to leave behind....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .....
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black
lace bra...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who
lets her cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone
else in her family...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a
recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
a feeling of control over her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to fall in love without losing herself..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
HOW TO QUIT A JOB,
BREAK UP WITH A LOVER,
AND CONFRONT A FRIEND WITHOUT RUINING THE FRIENDSHIP...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't
take it personally...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table...
or a charming inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...”
― Pamela Redmond Satran

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#2

“I once read the sentence 'I lay awake all night with a toothache, thinking about the toothache an about lying awake.' That's true to life. Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery's shadow or reflection: the fact that you don't merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in grief.”
― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

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#3

“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep on swallowing.

At other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed. There is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says. Or perhaps, hard to want to take it in. It is so uninteresting. Yet I want the others to be about me. I dread the moments when the house is empty. If only they would talk to one another and not to me.”
― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

tags: afraid, fear, grief, loneliness, loss, mourning, restlessness

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#4

“It does take great maturity to understand that the opinion we are arguing for is merely the hypothesis we favor, necessarily imperfect, probably transitory, which only very limited minds can declare to be a certainty or a truth.”
― Milan Kundera, Encounter

tags: argument, close-mindedness, hypothesis, open-mindedness

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#5

“Anyone can say 'I love you', however so many other sayings carry more weight in a relationship:

“I understand what you went through because I went through it too.”

“I believe you and in you.”

“I see the pain you are going through and we will conquer this together.”

“I don’t want to change you. I just want to help you become the best version of yourself.”

“You matter to me, therefore I will be there for you always.”

"I will never keep things from you because you have my respect and friendship. If I find out someone is putting you down, I will stand up for you. ”

“Your character will always shine when I speak about you because to damage your name is to damage ours.”

“I will go to the ends of the earth to save you from yourself or others.”

“What you have to say is important to me because I see you’re hurting and that hurts me, so I am going to listen. Together we will solve this problem.”

“I don’t care about your past. That was yesterday. Today, we are going to start over because people make mistakes, but they don’t have to pay for them for the rest of their life.”

"How can I help you get through this?"

“In sickness or in health...I meant it and I will search the world to find a way to keep you in it because you mean that much to me.”

“I don’t want to be your parent. I want to be your best friend, lover, cheering section, playmate and fill all the important parts of your soul. Together we will fill the rest as equals.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: best-friends, boyfriend, communication, communication-skills, couples, dating, foundation-of-love, friendships, girlfriend, husband, i-love-you, love, marriage, relationships, relationships-101, relationships-that-work, sayings, skills, stayingpositiveu-com, true-love, wife

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#6

“Christ's version of kindness:

I know you are hurt. I contributed to that. Maybe, I should have said more. Done more. Listened. I am sorry for my part in the situation. I am sorry if I caused you any pain or confused you with my actions or words. How can I help you move on? I want you to have peace in your life. Let's end this by communicating.

The world's perverted version of kindness:

You caused your own pain. You get what you get. Get over it and move on. Maybe, one day you will figure out what happiness really means. By the way, I am not responsible for giving it to you. Nor, do I have to put up with people that don't bring me joy or who I can't trust. I am only responsible for myself. I will pray for you because I am a good Christian.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: being-real, church-members, communicaiton, compassion, ending-pain, fake-members, kindness, lost-people, manners, moving-on, reaching-out, spirituality, ungodly-people

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#8

“Top 10 Deathbed Regrets:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life other people expected of me.

2. I wish I took time to be with my children more when they were growing up.

3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings, without the fear of being rejected or unpopular.

4. I wish I would have stayed in touch with friends and family.

5. I wish I would have forgiven someone when I had the chance.

6. I wish I would have told the people I loved the most how important they are to me.

7. I wish I would have had more confidence and tried more things, instead of being afraid of looking like a fool.

8. I wish I would have done more to make an impact in this world.

9. I wish I would have experienced more, instead of settling for a boring life filled with routine, mediocrity and apathy.

10. I wish I would have pursued my talents and gifts.

(contributed by Shannon L. Alder, author and therapist that has 17 years of experience working with hospice patients)”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#9

“Dignity
/ˈdignitē/ noun

1. The moment you realize that the person you cared for has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you, but a headache.

2. The moment you realize God had greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or sad Pinterest quotes.

3. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others because it undermines your worth, education and your parent’s wisdom.

4. The moment you live your dreams, not because of what it will prove or get you, but because that is all you want to do. People’s opinions don’t matter.

5. The moment you realize that no one is your enemy, except yourself.

6. The moment you realize that you can have everything you want in life. However, it takes timing, the right heart, the right actions, the right passion and a willingness to risk it all. If it is not yours, it is because you really didn’t want it, need it or God prevented it.

7. The moment you realize the ghost of your ancestors stood between you and the person you loved. They really don't want you mucking up the family line with someone that acts anything less than honorable.

8. The moment you realize that happiness was never about getting a person. They are only a helpmate towards achieving your life mission.

9. The moment you believe that love is not about losing or winning. It is just a few moments in time, followed by an eternity of situations to grow from.

10. The moment you realize that you were always the right person. Only ignorant people walk away from greatness.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#10

“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, "What else could this mean?”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: anger, ego, misinterpretation, misunderstand, misunderstandings, overthinking, pain, perception, perspective, questions, reading-into-everything, reading-into-things, second-quessing, self-esteem, self-improvement

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#11

“When you have a plan in your mind of what the best life is for you, but it doesn't match your life, you have pain.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: action, anxiety, avoiding, choices, conflict, creating, denial, fear, goal-setting, goals, inner-peace, lack-of-courage, life, making-goals, mapping-your-life, moving-forward, pain, planning, plans, procrastination, putting-off, what-is-it-you-want, why-do-you-want-it

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#12

“You will face your greatest opposition when you are closest to your biggest miracle.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#13

“The most important tactic in an argument next to being right is to leave an escape hatch for your opponent so that he can gracefully swing over to your side without an embarrassing loss of face.”
― Stephen Jay Gould

tags: argument, debate, opponent

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#14

“It's a strange truth that no matter how persuaded we might be of our own correctness, the discomfiting realization that others disagree with us causes a paralyzing inability to argue the case convincingly.”
― Brittney Ryan, The Legend of Holly Claus

tags: argument, right-and-wrong, truth

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#15

“When relationships fail it is usually because someone chooses not to show up for the battle.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#16

“I am very cautious of people who are absolutely right, especially when they are vehemently so.”
― Michael Palin, Diaries 1969-1979: The Python Years

tags: argument, black-and-white, debate, shades-of-grey

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#17

“I rather be a stupid person wanting clarification and answers, in order to be wiser, than be a stupid person that blindly believes the lies they are told, without question.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: 300-questions, answers, anxiety, clarification, communicators, delusion, false-beliefs, fear, god-s-warriors, mental-disorders, perception, perspective, proactive, questions, seekers, smart, stupidity, truth

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#18

“Half of the time, the Holy Ghost tries to warn us about certain people that come into our life. The other half of the time he tries to tell us that the sick feeling we get in a situation is not the other person’s fault, rather it is our own hang-ups. A life filled with bias, hatred, judgment, insecurity, fear, delusion and self-righteousness can cloud the soul of anyone you meet. Our job is never to assume,instead it is to listen, communicate, ask questions then ask more, until we know the true depth of someone’s spirit.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: answers, anxiety, aquaintances, benefit-of-the-doubt, bias, brainwashed, brothers, children, choices, christianity, christmas-spirit, church-members, communication, compassion, dating, delusions, empathy, eternal-truths, exfamily, family, family-members, fathers, fear, first-impressions, forgiving-family, forgiving-friends, forgiving-sisters, friends, holy-ghost, homeless, jesus-christ, knowing-someone, listen, listening, love, mental-disorders, mental-illness, mothers, new-perspective, new-year, not-seeing, persepctive, promptings, questions, reaching-out, relationships, relgion, resolutions, seeing, seekers, seeking, self-righteousness, sermons, sisters, spirtual, strangers, wrong-impresssions

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#19

“Your opponent's wrong doesn't automatically make you right. Most fights aren't about who's right; they are contention over degrees of wrongness.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Making Wishes: Quotes, Thoughts, & a Little Poetry for Every Day of the Year

tags: argument, contention, fight, fighting, richelle, richelle-e-goodrich, richelle-goodrich, right, right-and-wrong, squabbling, wrong, wrongdoing

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#20

“By the very act of arguing, you awake the patient's reason; and once it is awake, who can foresee the result?”
― C.S. Lewis

tags: argument, debate, religion, screwtape

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#21

“Nothing so sharpens the thought process as writing down one's arguments. Weaknesses overlooked in oral discussion become painfully obvious on the written page.”
― Hyman G. Rickover

tags: argument, writing

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#22

“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.”
― Nicholas Sparks, Safe Haven

tags: relationships

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#23

“He disliked contradiction, and still more, arguments that were continually skipping from one thing to another, introducing new and disconnected points, so that there was no knowing to which to reply.”
― Leo Tolstoy

tags: argument, conversation

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#24

“If you are without contention and still have the ability to make people think, their ego is going to take a hit and as a result they're not going to like you. They don't want to think. They want to be right, unrivaled or entertained.”
― Donna Lynn Hope

tags: argument, argumentative, challenged, communication, contentious, entertained, strife, unrivaled

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#24

“Just consider how terrible the day of your death will be
Others will go on speaking and you will not be able to argue back”
― Ram Mohan Roy

tags: argument, death

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#25

“To know if someone can speak offensively or politely, don’t give him poem to recite; don’t give him a song to sing. Just engage him in an argument and you will know it for yourself who he is.”
― Israelmore Ayivor, Leaders' Ladder

tags: argue, argument, engage, food-for-thought, impolite, israelmore-ayivor, leader, leaders, leadership, lifestyle, manner, offence, offend, offends, offensive, personal-branding, personal-development, poem, public-speaking, recite, rude, sing, song, talk-politely, tongue

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#26

“I think it’s important to reason from first principles rather than by analogy. The normal way we conduct our lives is we reason by analogy. [With analogy] we are doing this because it’s like something else that was done, or it is like what other people are doing. [With first principles] you boil things down to the most fundamental truths…and then reason up from there.”
― Elon Musk

tags: argument, critical-thinking, evidence, first-principles, individual, intelligence, logic, mind, mindfulness, objectivism, philosophy, psychology, rationalism, reason, reasoning, thinking

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#27

“Arguing with a lawyer is not the hardest thing in the world; not arguing is.”
― Raheel Farooq

tags: arguing, argument, debate, debates, lawyer-jokes, lawyers

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#28

“All the same, it strikes me as unfair that I still have to defend myself against her moral judgements. My continuing need for her approbation is pathetic. Twice now I have stopped myself on the street to remonstrate with her, a crazy old coot talking to himself.”
― Mordecai Richler, Barney's Version

tags: argument, breakups, hurt, loss-of-love, married, mental-health, seperated

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#29

“If you want one thing too much it’s likely to be a disappointment. The healthy way is to learn to like the everyday things, like soft beds and buttermilk—and feisty gentlemen.”
― Larry McMurtry, Lonesome Dove

tags: awesome, dealing-with-it, mottos

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