Calling Out The Shadows Quotes

“Learning that I could forgive my father, while realizing I did not have to let the aspects that I found unhealthy, disrespectful, and wrong continue, brought peace. It was liberating when I could forgive the man, but could also distance myself from elements that I had no reason to experience or engage with anymore.”
― Neal Winsomer, Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity over comfort. Transparency over secrecy. Structure over spin. Love over anger.

“Eliminating guilt and remorse, by removing these experiences from her emotional architecture altogether, she granted herself the freedom to return to the comfort zone she desired.”
― Neal Winsomer, Calling Out the Shadows: Skimmer's Edition Ebook

“Safety matters more to me than causing Anya to feel uncomfortable. What would bother me a great deal is if someone got physically hurt because I was too concerned about hurting feelings to ensure competency, safety, and protection.”
― Neal Winsomer, Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current

“overt actions that appeared strange at the outset evolved into concerning contradictions, leaving me to question not the conduct itself, but the impulse that fueled it”
― Neal Winsomer, Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity over comfort. Transparency over secrecy. Structure over spin. Love over anger.

“Once accountability arrives, once I have the access to my daughter that I deserve, once I achieve primary custody of her, the first thing I will do is not retaliate, respond, or mirror the toxic behaviors, actions, and lies that my ex-wife used with me. I will not respond with her narcissistic actions, her toxic lies, and her efforts to sabotage my relationship with my daughter. Regardless of what I feel about her mother, regardless of how her mother treated me, I will never keep my daughter from her mother. And my daughter will know that she always has access to her mother.”
― Neal Winsomer

“Becoming so locked inside her own version of reality that when presented with facts, she can't accept them. If the truth doesn't fit what she wants to believe, she'll continue her attacks regardless of evidence.”
― Neal Winsomer, Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity Over Comfort. Transparency Over Secrecy. Structure Over Spin. Love Over Anger.

“Packing an iPad so my daughter and I can stay connected takes seconds, but after asking many times, her refusal or flat-out ignoring my requests reveals her true priorities.”
― Neal Winsomer, Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity Over Comfort. Transparency Over Secrecy. Structure Over Spin. Love Over Anger.

“Deeds rarely followed the promises. Words came easily, but the actions to make them true were missing when it mattered.”
― Neal Winsomer, Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity over comfort. Transparency over secrecy. Structure over spin. Love over anger.