Closure Quotes

“There’s a trick to the 'graceful exit.' It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over — and let it go. It means leaving what’s over without denying its validity or its past importance to our lives. It involves a sense of future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, that we are moving up, rather than out.”
― Ellen Goodman

“If you have feelings for someone, let them know. It doesn’t matter if they can be in your life or not. Maybe, it is just enough for both of you to release the truth, so healing can occur. The opposite is true, as well. If you don’t have feelings for someone then never let another person suggest that you do. Protect your reputation and be responsible for the wrong information spread about you. Never allow anyone to live with a false belief or unfounded hope about you. An honorable person sets the record straight, so that person can move on with their life.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Like time suspended,
a wound unmended--
you and I.

We had no ending,
no said goodbye;

For all my life,
I'll wonder why.”
― Lang Leav, Love & Misadventure

“Time doesn't heal all wounds, only distance can lessen the sting of them.”
― Shannon Alder

“Arrogance is someone claiming to have come to Christ, but they won't spend more than five minutes listening to your journey because they are more concerned about their own well being, rather than being a true disciple of Christ. Blessed is the person that takes the time to heal and hear another person so they can move on.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Sometimes the door closes on a relationship, not because we failed but because something bigger than us says this no longer fits our life. So, lock the door, shed a tear, turn around and look for the new door that's opened. It's a sign that you're no longer that person you were, it's time to change into who you are. It's going to be okay.”
― Lee Goff

“Nothing changes until people decide to do the things they must, in order to bring about peace.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Closure is just as delusive-it is the false hope that we can deaden our living grief.”
― Stephen Grosz, The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves

“Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another, "I want to know why!”
― Shannon L. Alder

“But my world fell apart, and all they could do, the whole universe, was to silently move on.”
― Khadija Rupa, Unexpressed Feelings

“I couldn't help but suspect something he'd seen or encountered had changed his view of what had happened between them. It had somehow set him free. And he'd let it fly, that gorgeous blackbird of a love he'd been keeping in a cage. What was it like for him, every day standing outside in the wind and rain to stare at the ocean, yearning for some sign of her, never giving up hope? At The Peak perhaps she'd finally come into view, a ship coming neither toward him nor away, only riding that perfect line between heaven and earth, long enough for him to know that she had loved him, that what they had was real, before slipping out of sight, probably forever.”
― Marisha Pessl, Night Film

“Closure
/klōZHər/ Noun

1. The thing women tell you what they want, but secretly they really want you to tell them why you don’t want them again, so they can try one last time to convince you that you were wrong.

2. The warped mentality that having someone tell you honestly why they don’t want you is going to somehow make you feel peace, so you can move on.

3. The neat packaging of finishing conversations because you have been stewing over it insecurely about the length of what a stalker does.

4. The one thing women don’t give themselves because if they didn’t care about the jerk they wouldn’t still be hanging onto another conversation that tells them what they already know: He just isn’t that interested in you.

5. The anal retentive art of perfecting every ending with meaning, rather than just excepting you went through something rather sucky and he doesn’t care.

6. The act of closing something with someone, when in reality you should slam the door.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“When religious people take the stance that they don’t owe anyone that is hurting closure or answers then God is not winning. Conflict continues because of lack of communication, fear and indifference.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“We've been very lonely, but we had it easy. Because death is so heavy - we, too young to know about it, couldn't handle it. After this you and I may end up seeing nothing but suffering, difficulty and ugliness, but if only you'll agree to it, I want for us to go on to more difficult places, happier places, what ever comes, together. I want you to make the decision after you're completely better, so take your time thinking about it. In the mean time, though, don't disappear on me.”
― Banana Yoshimoto, Kitchen

“What was closure if not a clock? Not an end as everyone imagined, but a beginning.”
― Celeste Chaney, In Absence of Fear

“Closure is a false harmony, a siren song masquerading as a swan song.”
― Timothy Snyder, Bloodlands: Europe Between Hitler and Stalin

“Each time we open a new chapter, we must close the previous one. Yet sometimes we are running so fast into what's next that we overlook the magnitude of honoring what was. We underestimate the potency of saying "thank you" or the power of ritualizing closure.”
― Bonnie Wan, The Life Brief: A Playbook for No-Regrets Living

“Sometimes we are called back to the things we most want to flee, perhaps because they left such a mark that we don’t know how to leave them behind.”
― Laura van den Berg, State of Paradise

“Do you understand what it feels like to love someone who won’t even say they’re yours?”
― Arabella Sveinsdottir, Nowhere Strangers: A Sapphic Coming-of-Age Story of Digital Romance, Heartbreak, and Self-Discovery

“Love was showing up.”
― Arabella Sveinsdottir, Nowhere Strangers: A Sapphic Coming-of-Age Story of Digital Romance, Heartbreak, and Self-Discovery

“So much of the rest is aftermath.”
― Jeff VanderMeer, Borne

“Self-respect isn’t built on others’ approval—it’s built on honoring your own heart.”

— Chasing Horizons”
― Aira Elowen

“They always call it connection when it’s just control with a softer name.”
― Arabella Sveinsdottir, Deer Here He Stares: A Neo-Noir Descent Into Obsession, Psychological Delusion, Digital Predators, and the Quiet Girl Who Watches the Watchers

“You copied entire lines, then called me jealous when I noticed my own reflection in your sentences.”
― Arabella Sveinsdottir, Copycat Crush: A Gritty Urban Thriller About Imitation, Theft, and a Man Who Loves You So Hard He Becomes Your Biggest Hater

“Whatever steals your voice hates when you use it.”
― Arabella Sveinsdottir, Copycat Crush: A Gritty Urban Thriller About Imitation, Theft, and a Man Who Loves You So Hard He Becomes Your Biggest Hater

“You fought with honor, my son. Rest now.”
― Deni Ar Dente, Code Gaia: Emergence

“You don’t need closure — just clench your purpose and close the door yourself!”
― Dr. Angela L. Hood

“Maturity says: I don’t need closure to choose peace.”
― Dr. Angela L. Hood

“You didn’t lose a person. You lost the version of yourself you were starting to believe in when they were around.”
― SPAARSH R, THE HOUSE WHISPER: A SOUL COMPANION FOR THE GENERATION THAT FEELS TOO MUCH

“Closure isn’t something they give you. It’s something you decide to take back.”
― Katerina Markadakis, Legacy of Letting Go: A Journal for Those Healing from Love That Could Not Stay