Divorce 101 Quotes

“The moment you have to recruit people to put another person down, in order to convince someone of your value is the day you dishonor your children, your parents and your God. If someone doesn't see your worth the problem is them, not people outside your relationship.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“If they keep coming back to you, it isn't love. It is because you made yourself and easy option. The moment the thing they truly want becomes less difficult to obtain is when you will realize that your worth was on sale.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Temptation goes both ways. Sometimes, you can be tempted to live a half life because it pleases someone else. Don't ever live in such a way that your heart splits into two souls. You might find yourself sinning for the rest of your life because you don't want to really be in that situation, but you don't want to hurt the kids. That is a hell that your children will pick up on soon enough. Staying for the kids is possible, but it takes two people to agree that choice is their lifestyle, not one. Otherwise, you hold another person captive because of your fear of stating the obvious-- you are not in love with them.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Staying for your children is noble. However, staying with someone that teaches your children that "selective" evilness is okay is mental illness.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“There are many types of marriage relationships and all of them can work, but none is sadder than the one that doesn't represent peace in your heart.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Religious guilt will never grow the kind of love you want in someone.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The end of my marriage meant the end of fighting for something I believed in: my commitment to God to stay faithfully married until death, no matter the circumstances.”
― Jen Grice, You Can Survive Divorce: Hope, Healing, and Encouragement for Your Journey

“This is what divorce is: taking things you no longer want from people you no longer love. ~ Archie Jones”
― Zadie Smith, White Teeth

“No one understands what it is like to be in a relationship with a narcissist abuser. You cannot learn about this situation by merely reading books or interviewing others. Only those who have personally experienced understand its insidious nature.”
― Kathleen Keith