Narcissism Expert Quotes

“Narcissists are very retaliative if they believe another has achieved what they desire,
exposed their insecurities, or refused to be under their control.”
― Lorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse

“Many survivors of a narcissist discover that they’ve sacrificed so much in an attempt to please the narcissist that they’ve lost sight of who they are. Rediscovering oneself involves reclaiming things once loved, be it passions, friendships, or even jobs. It’s about finding that one thing you used to enjoy and taking it back. Reconnect with your inner child, play, and reintroduce yourself to the joys that make you uniquely you.”
― Tracy Malone

“A narcissist doesn't listen with the intention of learning or contributing; instead, they focus on collecting information about their victims' vulnerabilities. They gather this data with the intent of later using it as a weapon in their interactions.”
― Tracy Malone

“Discovering that your life was built on falsehoods and that a narcissist exploited you is a profoundly painful experience. It transcends a typical breakup, as narcissists employ vicious deceptions to shatter their victims emotionally.”
― Tracy Malone

“Lingering narcissist fears - Once free from a narcissist it will be years before you stop looking over your shoulder.”
― Tracy Malone

“Simply because a person has a more avoidant attachment style does not in
and of itself make them a narcissist. Second, “avoidant” is an attachment style, whereas “narcissism” is associated with a personality disorder. The two are not synonymous.”
― Annie Tanasugarn

“Narcissistic caregivers are along a continuum: On one end they can be abusive and punitive; they create restrictive environments and excessive expectations of accomplishing or performing to make them look good.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD

“BOUNDARIES
STEP ONE - set a boundary, what do you not want to hear, see, or do.
STEP TWO-decide limits - what you will and will not tolerate
STEP THREE - pay attention to people's reactions, if your boundaries make someone mad, then that person is abusing you. LESSON - someone that loves you would never hurt you, PERIOD! Learn this and self-love and you will be ok.
@tracyAMalone”
― Tracy A. Malone

“Narcissists who possess firearms tend to amass a substantial arsenal, wielding the threat of their guns to manipulate and intimidate their victims, perpetuating a constant climate of fear. Neglectful gun storage, such as leaving them on a nightstand while children are present, is unfortunately common in such cases.”
― Tracy Malone

“Narcissists operate on their unique logic and irrationality. Conversations or recaps with them lack coherence; they selectively interpret the truth, disregarding elements that don’t align with their narrative.”
― Tracy Malone

“Narcissists promises echo hollow, a symphony of assurances that dances away, leaving only the bitter notes of disappointment to their victims.”
― Tracy Malone

“Victims often regret the years spent with a narcissist. Although time cannot be reclaimed, clinging to the notion of “wasting years” prolongs the anger tied to that period. If you’re already angry that they stole that time, refrain from allowing them to reside in your heart for another day.”
― Tracy Malone

“There will come a day when you're strolling, the sun casting the perfect shadow, and you'll experience a Peter Pan moment of excitement and joy—a feeling you never thought possible after enduring narcissistic abuse.”
― Tracy Malone

“Raised by a narcissist, I yearned for a Prince Charming to rescue me from my metaphorical tower. Ironically, I ended up with a narcissist who dubbed himself Prince Charming. The outcome wasn’t what I envisioned. Despite his attempts to break me, he inadvertently spurred my growth, making me the best version of myself. I am now free from his false life.”
― Tracy Malone

“Few people escape narcissistic abuse without reaching rock bottom.”
― Tracy A Malone, NEW-Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up!

“One word I often hear that defines an anxious-avoidant trap is “unsatisfying.” The relationship is not trauma bonded. However, without both partners making an emotional investment into cultivating healthier ways of building and maintaining intimacy, the relationship can devolve into a toxic one, or a trauma bond.”
― Annie Tanasugarn

“One of the biggest impacts on intimacy is fear. Fears surrounding intimacy can result in a push-pull dynamic because of differing attachment needs between anxious and avoidant partners. If your fears surround being left behind or rejected by your partner, you may be living with a more anxious attachment style.”
― Annie Tanasugarn

“Survivors become adept at maneuvering around the concealed triggers of narcissistic abuse. A narcissist frequently blames the victim for pressing an undefined 'button' to provoke their fits of anger, rendering navigation through this turbulent terrain virtually impossible.”
― Tracy Malone

“Narcissists may exhibit extreme cleanliness or utter disarray. An in-between scenario is when messy individuals impose cleanup duties on others, while neat freaks insist you conform to their standards, leaving no room for your authentic self in either case.”
― Tracy Malone

“Narcissistic revenge fantasies. As the shock of betrayal intensifies, victims often entertain healthy revenge fantasies against their narcissist. It’s a way for the mind to grasp the reality. Remember, daydreaming isn’t hiring a hitman, unlike the tactics they employ.”
― Tracy Malone

“If you consider almost every evil character in Disney movies, you can’t help but see the narcissistic tendencies. I love Disney, but suddenly I feel groomed to believe evil would be some green-faced witch, rather than my own mother.”
― Tracy Malone

“If you are living in the past, you may experience depression, anger, or guilt.


If you are living in the future, you may experience anxiety, or fear.


If you are living in the present moment you will feel grounded, calm, love and joy.


To come back to center, replace any negative emotions by finding gratitude for everything.”
― Tracy Malone

“Narcissists lovebomb their victims with affection, all while subtly assessing their reactions. Sharing stories of their perceived ugliness, they gauge your willingness to praise and reaffirm their beauty. Testing if you be a good supply?”
― Tracy Malone

“A narcissists love language. A narcissist’s love language is DARVO—deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender—paired with diversions, distractions, and delays, all designed to keep the truth buried and themselves in control.”
― Tracy A Malone, NEW-Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up!

“In a narcissistic relationship, there are moments when the narcissist can be as charming as they were in the beginning. This intermittent kindness confuses the victim, leading them to believe that if they just try harder and cater to the narcissist’s demands, the abuse might stop—when in reality, it’s part of the cycle that keeps them trapped.”
― Tracy A Malone, NEW-Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up!

“Entering into a relationship with a narcissist, is like contracting an STD, a Sexually Transmitted Demon.”
― Mekael Shane

“An abusive relationship typically includes choices in partners who have histories of destructive and narcissistic behavior, and who commonly struggle with their own mental health or addictions, leaving you at risk for continuing a caregiver role. Abusive and trauma-bonded relationships are characterized by intense highs and lows, severe enmeshment, loss of identity, coercive control, and cycles of abuse and manipulation, followed by intermittent calm.”
― Annie Tanasugarn

“There are three defining factors that distinguish unavoidable conflict seen in healthy relationships from conflict seen in a push-pull dynamic, toxic relationship, or trauma bond. All three can erode intimacy. They are: the frequency of the conflict, the intensity of the conflict, and whether each partner is solution-focused.”
― Annie Tanasugarn

“If you are more avoidantly attached, emotional intimacy is often seen as something you simultaneously want but fear. Many who are more avoidantly attached are drawn to the intensity and newness of the early stages of a relationship. Yet, they often start pumping the brakes when the relationship becomes more emotionally intimate.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles in Your Relationship and Build Lasting Connection

“An abusive relationship typically includes choices in partners who have histories of destructive and narcissistic behavior, and who commonly struggle with their own mental health or addictions, leaving you at risk for continuing a caregiver role. Abusive and trauma-bonded relationships are characterized by intense highs and lows, severe enmeshment, loss of identity, coercive control, and cycles of abuse and manipulation, followed by intermittent calm.”
― Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles in Your Relationship and Build Lasting Connection