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“Designations of innocence and guilt too often get in the way of repair. What if, in resolving conflicts, we could move out of binaries and into a culture of accountability?”
― Prentis Hemphill, What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World

“Reactivity is the mechanism of time travel that I discussed in the last chapter, taking us, though not consciously, out of this time. The more we are jolted into reactivity, the more we lose our grounding in the present moment as we respond to the vestiges of the past.”
― Prentis Hemphill, What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World

“Ruptures should inform the shape of relationships going forward. we should relate differently based on what's happened, now that we've learned something about who the other actually is and who we are. if not, we risk falling into the same patterns that didn't work before.”
― Prentis Hemphill, What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World

“Whatever made me talk about him, whatever made me think of him, was not love, just something else, but not love; love being the thing I felt for my family, the one I have now, but not for him, or the people I am from, not love, but a powerful feeling all the same, only not love. My talk was full of pain, it was full of misery, it was full of anger, there was no peace to it, there was much sorrow, but there was no peace to it. How did I feel? I did not know how I felt. I was a combustion of feelings.”
― Jamaica Kincaid