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“Whatever made me talk about him, whatever made me think of him, was not love, just something else, but not love; love being the thing I felt for my family, the one I have now, but not for him, or the people I am from, not love, but a powerful feeling all the same, only not love. My talk was full of pain, it was full of misery, it was full of anger, there was no peace to it, there was much sorrow, but there was no peace to it. How did I feel? I did not know how I felt. I was a combustion of feelings.”
― Jamaica Kincaid

“Ruptures should inform the shape of relationships going forward. we should relate differently based on what's happened, now that we've learned something about who the other actually is and who we are. if not, we risk falling into the same patterns that didn't work before.”
― Prentis Hemphill, What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World

“To deny the life of our emotions and the process of feeling is to deny how alive we are and how inseparably bound up we are with one another.”
― Prentis Hemphill, What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World

“Designations of innocence and guilt too often get in the way of repair. What if, in resolving conflicts, we could move out of binaries and into a culture of accountability?”
― Prentis Hemphill, What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World