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“Boundaries require us to rework and restructure our relationships for the sake of connection, for deep mutuality.”
― Prentis Hemphill, What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World

“Whatever made me talk about him, whatever made me think of him, was not love, just something else, but not love; love being the thing I felt for my family, the one I have now, but not for him, or the people I am from, not love, but a powerful feeling all the same, only not love. My talk was full of pain, it was full of misery, it was full of anger, there was no peace to it, there was much sorrow, but there was no peace to it. How did I feel? I did not know how I felt. I was a combustion of feelings.”
― Jamaica Kincaid

“I had learned to seek connection at the expense of my bodily safety, to lose my own limits in order to belong. Eventually, transgression became familiar, a fact of relationship.”
― Prentis Hemphill, What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World

“To deny the life of our emotions and the process of feeling is to deny how alive we are and how inseparably bound up we are with one another.”
― Prentis Hemphill, What It Takes to Heal: How Transforming Ourselves Can Change the World