Carrie Schultz

“A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“If you did not have that person or problem in your life, what would you be doing with your life that is different from what you are doing now? How would you be feeling and behaving? Spend a few minutes visualizing yourself living your life, feeling and behaving that way—in spite of your unsolved problem.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“Maybe, sometimes, in the midst of things going terribly wrong, something is going just right.”
― Gerald G. May, The Dark Night of the Soul: A Deep Dive into the Shadow Side of Spirituality, Embracing Disorientation, Doubt, and Despair for Authentic Spiritual Growth and Wholeness

“People ultimately do what they want to do. They feel how they want to feel (or how they are feeling); they think what they want to think; they do the things they believe they need to do; and they will change only when they are ready to change. It doesn’t matter if they’re wrong and we’re right. It doesn’t matter if they’re hurting themselves. It doesn’t matter that we could help them if they’d only listen to, and cooperate with, us. IT DOESN’T MATTER, DOESN’T MATTER, DOESN’T MATTER, DOESN’T MATTER. We”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself